20 MORE things about husbands

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Here, dear friends, is the second installment of my letter to you: perfectly adoring amazing help meets that we all are, about our always sweet, wonderful, helpful husbands. Right? Right!? You know I’m talking to you. About him. And you know I’m right there with ya.

Here follow the last 20 truths I learned either by gleaning wisdom from older friends or the painfully hard way.

1. Every once in awhile, watch your husband and make a list of the things you fell in love with and realize you are weak in those areas so that God could make you One.

2. Put your husband first and then your children. Your husband needs this, you need this, and amazingly your children need this.

3. If you feel aggressively, defensively that you.are.not.wrong – you just might be!

4. Be teachable - especially when you don’t want to be.

5. Stop (mid-sentence if you have to!) when you’re tempted to gossip, berate your husband, or say anything negative.

6. Speak only encouraging words and they’ll come back to you.

7. Surround yourself with positive people. It’s contagious.

8. Ask God for the characteristics that you want, try to make these changes yourself, find people that have those characteristics, and then just be patient while God does the rest of the work for you. One day you’ll just wake up and wonder how you’ve become more of the person you wanted to be.

9. Read Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul by John Eldridge – it’s written for men – my husband said it was life-changing so of course I read it! It gave me such insight into my husband. And my boys.

10. If something isn’t working – in your marriage, with your children, with others – ask God to search you and try you and give you wisdom to know what to change.

11. You will gain wisdom, if you ask.

12. Give freely and often.

13. Accept freely and with much gratitude.

14. Don’t “pray”. Talk to God like you talk to your friends – openly and often.

15. When you want to complain – think of something in your current situation for which to be thankful. There’s always something.

16. Make life comfortable for your husband and he will make life fun for you.

17. Joy is looking at life with a thankful heart. It is a decision.

18. Contentment is not “just one more thing.”

19. Money is never worth it.

20. Joyfully laughing always is.

Suzanne is wife to one and mama to four. The little ones are 2 boys ages 7 and 5, a girl who’s 3, and a baby boy who’s not knee-high to a grasshopper yet. She eclecticly unschools with lapbooks the Charlotte Mason way. In other words, she doesn’t have the slightest clue what she’s doing, but does it anyway. She lives in a world where there are few absolutes. The dishes don’t stay cleaned, the laundry doesn’t stay put away, the children don’t remember what she told them yesterday. But in their chaotic lives they have found joy. And they’d love to share that with you. So, come on over, kick a path through the toys, have a seat on the couch and grab a cup of strong coffee. Just be ready to hone your skills of “interrupted conversation”! And be sure to stop by her personal blog at JoyfulChaos.