How Do I Do It?

September 9, 2008 by Suzanne  

I’ve been asked before how I homeschool with a toddler (or 2!) in the house.

Just to update you, I have 4 little ones:

TheOldest, a boy turning 7 in September, and will be starting 2nd grade; TheMiddlest, a boy who turned 5 in April, will be starting Kindergarten, ThePrincess, the only girl – who turned 3 in April and is officially preschooling now; and TheBaby~est, turned one in March and is absolutely determined to thwart any plans for learning that I have.

I can’t tell you the best way to do it. I can’t tell you how everybody else does it. I can only tell you how I’ve managed to do it.

A lot of screaming.

Oh, stop, I’m just kidding.

It actually has a lot to do with timing. And since I’ve embraced the chaos and quit trying to fit a bunch of little unpredictable people into my perfectly planned schedule it goes even better. Plus, it helps that I adjusted my expectations.

A few of the most important points around here:

Bring the baby along for the ride. When our youngest was an infant, I either “wore” him, held him, nursed him, or laid him beside us while we worked.

Accept that seasons change. And you had better too!

Now that the baby is 16 months and climbing onto every surface of the house, we only do “table time” when he goes down for a nap.

I gave up my precious school nook.

I know, let’s all have a collective moment of silence… I tried so hard to save my school room. I even moved it into one of the bedrooms, thinking that maybe I could close the door and keep little hands from destroying everything, but then it just turned into this:


So I gave it up, with the consolation that maybe someday all of my children will be old enough to not destroy everything in sight.

Keep it in reach. We keep all of our pencils, crayons, and other supplies in a moveable basket on the kitchen counter – where the older ones can reach it anytime, but the baby is out of it. All of our current work also on the kitchen counter. However, I keep all of my teacher resource books safe in a closet, blocked by a couch. I wish I were kidding.

Make “learning never stops” your motto. It’s the truth, and with very little “table time”, I better make the most of “real life learning.”

Occupy those little hands. I keep buckets that are themed for my preschooler. I pull out age-appropriate puzzles, magnetic dress-up dolls, blocks, and lace-up cards. I guide her on as many projects as I can manage while also working with the older boys, and then turn her loose to color and write (read: scribble) as much as she wants.

Discover delight-driven learning. Otherwise known as fly by the seat of your pants learning around here! Don’t get me wrong, I do dream of curriculum, of opening a box with new books, and shiny extras just waiting for our eager minds. But, with all the ages, money restrictions, hand-me-downs I’ve been so blessed to acquire, and realizing that my kiddos really are still so young, I’ll be holding off a while longer.

Let go of the fantasy idea of teaching children and embrace the reality. For instance, read-alouds. Oh, my beloved read-alouds. So rarely this:


Much more often if you were a fly on our wall you wouldn’t even recognize it as reading. My girl feels the need to interrupt with constant commentary. Constant. My toddler sees it as the perfect time to run off, do acrobatics off the furniture, attack the dog… My middlest boy is SO not interested in reading. So you can find him, coloring, or more often, doing flips around the room while I attempt to read. And with every interruption, my oldest, who loves to be read to, complains to everyone who is within range that he wants to hear the story. One chapter in Junie B. Jones takes no less than 45 minutes. And that’s after finding the book that one of the younger ones inevitably carries off somewhere.

Which leads me right into my next point: Patience. Oh, elusive patience. Oh, much needed, much lacking patience. All I can say on this one, is practice makes perfect. Learn forgiveness of yourself. And, well, I’m open to all the suggestions/prayers you can give!

Be an opportunist. When everyone is still – jump on it – “Let’s read!” When everyone is climbing the walls – “Project time!” When the baby’s sleepy – “Everybody to the table!”

Include the toddler in the “fun” stuff. Such as when we were studying American History and veered off into a Native American unit. The day we all dressed up as indians, of course the baby had to get in on the no-shirt, lipstick-as-war-paint fun!


The moral to my homeschooling with *2 under 2* story?

Do what works. Until it doesn’t work anymore. And then try something else.

And please tell me how you homeschool with a toddler in the house. I need some more things in my magic bag for when this doesn’t work anymore!

Suzanne is wife to one and mama to four. The little ones are 2 boys ages 6 and 5, a girl who’s 3, and a baby boy who’s not knee-high to a grasshopper yet. She eclecticly unschools with lapbooks the Charlotte Mason way. In other words, she doesn’t have the slightest clue what she’s doing, but does it anyway. She lives in a world where there are few absolutes. The dishes don’t stay cleaned, the laundry doesn’t stay put away, the children don’t remember what she told them yesterday. But in their chaotic lives they have found joy. And they’d love to share that with you. So, come on over, kick a path through the toys, have a seat on the couch and grab a cup of strong coffee. Just be ready to hone your skills of “interrupted conversation”! And be sure to stop by her personal b
log at The Joyful Chaos.

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16 Comments on "How Do I Do It?"

  1. Sunshine on Tue, 9th Sep 2008 4:31 pm 

    Oh I thank you for posting this! I do not even have any toddlers right now, but I sooooo needing to read this. Especially the part about reading time. My dd5 LOVES to read, but if I am reading, she constantly interrupts to give her take on things. I finally had to ask her to at least let me finish a page before she makes a comment. I do not want to squash curiosity/ creativity, but taking 45 minutes to read 20 (short) pages was getting a bit…. overwhelming. Patience you say?? Hmm… well, okay, at least I know I am not alone in this!
    Thanks again, I loved this post!

    Sunshine

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  2. Suzanne on Tue, 9th Sep 2008 6:00 pm 

    Sunshine-

    Glad to know I’m not alone either – my misery sure likes company!!

    Thanks for the sweet comment!

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  3. Edi on Tue, 9th Sep 2008 10:05 pm 

    You mentioned one of your children constantly giving a running commentary while you are reading – well I have 2 constant interupters/commenters while I am reading. It has improved a bit – so that they might wait until I pause to take a breath before commenting. It does drive me crazy – but I also think it’s good b/c I am the one doing the reading and it shows me that they are connecting and they are being interactive by their questions/comments/etc. etc.

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  4. tdrowlee on Wed, 10th Sep 2008 12:53 am 

    Hehehe, sounds so familiar over here! My kids are 7, 4 next month, 3 in 3 mos, and 1 next month, with baby # 5 on the way. When the baby is born in Feb/Mar I will have 4 children age 4 or younger, plus the 7yo! Eeek!

    For now we are big on homeschooling in segments. Math gets done early in the day with the 7yo first while the others are playing. Then the 2 preschoolers do thier turn with math(numbers, shapes, counting, measuring, etc). The baby is given a tub of toys for his manipulatives(little people, cars, blocks). He likes to chew on them. Did I mention he started walking at 8 months old? sigh He’s very mobile and already running.

    After that the kids run/play while I hopefully get one chore done. The rest of schoolwork centers on our unit study of the month. We have a read aloud book, lots of library books, coloring pages, notebook pages, crafts, lapbooks, food to make, and so on. This is mixed throughout the day with play inside and out, snacks, meals, and then the baby naps in the afternoon. Bliss! With only the two preschoolers left to “help” we save our messy projects, animal dissections, and so on for this time.

    We do read alouds on the couch or in a bedroom. The rule is play quietly or just listen. We’re still working on the just listening part… some days we have lots of comments/questions, other days everyone gets very involved in the stories. I love Duplo blocks, Legos, and puzzles during this time.

    The kids like to play homeschool and so they are often teaching each other things I’ve not planned, and it is cute to watch. I love it!

    As for patience… well, yeah. We’re working on that.

    Check out our homeschool life on our blog http://www.ourbusyhomeschool.blogspot.com

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  5. Carletta on Wed, 10th Sep 2008 3:42 am 

    Great tips, Suzanne!

    I have a very busy 19 month old. He is cute, but honestly, he is a little terror! We’re just starting our new school year and I’ll definitely keep your advice in mind.

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  6. doucement on Wed, 10th Sep 2008 4:05 am 

    When I come up with things that work, I’ll be sure to let you know. We have a second grader, K’er, 2 1/2 yr old (who wants to do school REALLY BADLY but whom I’m trying to hold off until next fall when I can trust her for more than three seconds with any sort of writing utensil), and a 14-month-old who is a twin to your table climbing monkey.

    I feel like I am running a race everyday and everytime I look up, there is another mountain ahead of me. Patience, indeed!

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  7. Suzanne on Wed, 10th Sep 2008 12:06 pm 

    Edi-

    You’re so right! They are connecting, aren’t they? Such good perspective!

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  8. Suzanne on Wed, 10th Sep 2008 12:12 pm 

    tdrowlee-

    Segmented work, yes! That’s it exactly! My baby-est walked at 9 months, ran soon after too! And I loved your “He likes to chew on them.” Too funny!

    I’ll definitely be by to check out your site!

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    Carletta-

    Oh, 19 months! I posted once on that age – I’ll have to find it and send it to you!

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    Doucement-

    A race with mountains – not hurdles, mind you, mountains! And those mountains are scaled with ease by our toddlers! We’ll just have to keep cheering each other on to run it well!

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  9. melody is slurping life on Wed, 10th Sep 2008 12:52 pm 

    I love “real” posts.

    This was great, and I for one thank you for reminding me that we’re doing just fine in our journey…as messy and disheveled as it may appear to the untrained eye. :)

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  10. Letitia on Wed, 10th Sep 2008 1:39 pm 

    I enjoyed your article, but I don’t have toddlers anymore~mine are 21, 18, 11, and 7. Your motto is great for all ages, not just toddlers, though. Hang onto that delight-driven learning, read-alouds, and lifestyle of learning for as long as you can. Make that beloved curriculum fit your kids; not the other way around. They’ll continue to love learning for a lifetime.

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  11. Elvisgirl on Wed, 10th Sep 2008 4:29 pm 

    Great post! I did sigh for your classroom. I had an adorable one of my own, which looked very much like the second picture all summer long and up until about two weeks ago. It's still not pretty. The kids refuse to do school downstairs (in the basement), because they've made so many messes…as they look for something they've discovered bugs, including spiders. And since I haven't had time for a major overhaul lately…we're doing school on the kitchen table & in their bedrooms…with all resources in an adorable lined basket with a lid that I got at Wal-Mart on clearance for less than half price. I guess that classroom is my little girl dream of playing school. It never lasted for more than two or three subjects anyway. The major overhaul may happen tonight…they have started soccer again & I finally have some time to myself while Dad coaches.

    I had to laugh with you at your read aloud time. My 7-year old only inturrupts when she can't figure what a word means, but the 5-year old boy is always interrupting about who is who and what is going to happen. I answer as concisely as possible and then remind him to listen and he'll find out. He is in & out of the room while we're reading, unless he's tire & cuddles up next to me.

    I smiled again when I saw your picture, because I should've known you were the author!

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  12. Debra on Sun, 12th Oct 2008 3:17 pm 

    Great! Thank you!

    I just blogged about this this week too!
    http://emergent-homeschool.blogspot.com/2008/10/how-do-you-do-it-with-three.html

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  13. carrie-the gremlin wrangler on Sun, 12th Oct 2008 9:41 pm 

    This is great! My older kids are a little older than yours and this is still how we do things. It’s that baby thrown in the mix. But even though I feel like we’ve been in “basics mode” for so long, I’m starting to see that it’s not entirely bad.

    thanks for sharing!

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  14. Mandy Mom on Mon, 13th Oct 2008 11:04 am 

    Hahaha! Sounds a lot like our days sometimes!

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  15. Georgiann on Fri, 17th Oct 2008 2:11 pm 

    Hi there~I to am glad I ‘m not alone in the CHAOS!!!. I’m taking this year off from homeschooling to recharge
    but now wish I had all the kiddos home! My kiddos are 14,11,9,6 all boys. Then the girls are 3 and 1.
    I can relate to the messed up book shelf!!! I just bought a new shelf that has been working better that the one I had. You can check it out on my blog (if you want). ourfruitfulharvest.blogspot.com
    Peace in Christ,
    Georgiann

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  16. Nayeli on Sat, 10th Jan 2009 11:30 pm 

    I am totally new to Blogspot- this is my second night browsing and I am totally addicted! Anyways, I have read a couple of your articles through “Heart of the Matter” and I just wanted to let you know how much I have enjoyed them (even laughed)! I can totally relate to the joyful chaos theme and most of your pictures.

    Here is one of my favorite quotes:
    “Our house is clean enough to be healthy, and dirty enough to be happy. ~Author Unknown

    I have not developed my blogspot page yet, here is my Myspace link… http://Myspace.com/Nayelis_space

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