Comments on: How to respond to the negative stereotypes of homeschooling http://heartofthematteronline.com/how-to-respond-to-the-negative-stereotypes-of-homeschooling Thu, 29 Jul 2010 18:39:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Sallie http://heartofthematteronline.com/how-to-respond-to-the-negative-stereotypes-of-homeschooling/comment-page-1#comment-33424 Sallie Wed, 30 Sep 2009 14:49:20 +0000 http://heartofthematteronline.com/?p=14013#comment-33424 There are so many things we can say we feel like we have to tell people about and they might have differing views --- debt free living, family size, career choices, green living, school -- but we are not responsible for the choices other people make. If we become homeschool-thumpers, we only turn people off instead of welcoming them back for more conversation at a later time. We all have family that doesn't understand. We all have rude passerby's in the street who are gonna give us weird looks or say we're crazy. But, we also will have generous, and kind folks who offer us encouragement. Focus on those things, and not the negative. Focus on all the accomplishments your children, and your family as a whole, have made and the opportunities they've had particularly because they haven't been in a public school setting. ALWAYS focus on the good!! .-= Sallie´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.mikeandsallie.com/sallie/index.blog?entry_id=1385976" rel="nofollow">I Greet Thee Who My Sure Redeemer Art</a> =-. There are so many things we can say we feel like we have to tell people about and they might have differing views — debt free living, family size, career choices, green living, school — but we are not responsible for the choices other people make. If we become homeschool-thumpers, we only turn people off instead of welcoming them back for more conversation at a later time.

We all have family that doesn’t understand. We all have rude passerby’s in the street who are gonna give us weird looks or say we’re crazy. But, we also will have generous, and kind folks who offer us encouragement. Focus on those things, and not the negative. Focus on all the accomplishments your children, and your family as a whole, have made and the opportunities they’ve had particularly because they haven’t been in a public school setting. ALWAYS focus on the good!!
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]]> By: Sallie http://heartofthematteronline.com/how-to-respond-to-the-negative-stereotypes-of-homeschooling/comment-page-1#comment-32074 Sallie Tue, 08 Sep 2009 01:06:05 +0000 http://heartofthematteronline.com/?p=14013#comment-32074 Thanks everyone for your comments! We have been out of town for the holiday weekend and didn't have ANY internet access... oh my!! It was glorious ;-) I will come back in the morning and read all your comments and answer any that need answering. Have a blessed evening! Sallie .-= Sallie´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.mikeandsallie.com/sallie/index.blog?entry_id=1377946" rel="nofollow">My Meatloaf Recipe</a> =-. Thanks everyone for your comments! We have been out of town for the holiday weekend and didn’t have ANY internet access… oh my!! It was glorious ;-)

I will come back in the morning and read all your comments and answer any that need answering. Have a blessed evening!

Sallie
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]]> By: Karen http://heartofthematteronline.com/how-to-respond-to-the-negative-stereotypes-of-homeschooling/comment-page-1#comment-31988 Karen Sun, 06 Sep 2009 23:38:21 +0000 http://heartofthematteronline.com/?p=14013#comment-31988 I agree with using a soft answer. But what I struggled with recently and addressed in my blog as well, was this: I feel we must be a good witness to homeschooling by telling people who do not understand. These are the people who make ignorant statements at times. It to me is the same as sharing the Gospel...how can those be saved if they do not hear (Romans 10:15) How can we expect people to understand homeschooling if we do not share? But yes, we must use a soft answer and certainly address them in love and grace....thanks for all the insight ladies... .-= Karen´s last blog ..<a href="http://beautifulfeetbringgoodnews.blogspot.com/2009/09/workboxes-are-set-up.html" rel="nofollow">Workboxes are set up!!!</a> =-. I agree with using a soft answer. But what I struggled with recently and addressed in my blog as well, was this: I feel we must be a good witness to homeschooling by telling people who do not understand. These are the people who make ignorant statements at times. It to me is the same as sharing the Gospel…how can those be saved if they do not hear (Romans 10:15) How can we expect people to understand homeschooling if we do not share? But yes, we must use a soft answer and certainly address them in love and grace….thanks for all the insight ladies…
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]]> By: Ada http://heartofthematteronline.com/how-to-respond-to-the-negative-stereotypes-of-homeschooling/comment-page-1#comment-31978 Ada Sun, 06 Sep 2009 19:00:20 +0000 http://heartofthematteronline.com/?p=14013#comment-31978 I thought this was a beautiful article. I have learned the lesson of the soft answer the hard way. I don't know though if I would even waste my time edifying strangers to homeschooling. I think unfortunately we as human beings have a hard time understanding what we have not experienced - which is why adversity teaches compassion. I have given up on caring what people outside my circle, think anymore. It just takes so much energy away from my true mission when I try to "convert" others to what my "calling" is all about. I guess giving no response is also a part of giving a soft answer. Thanks for the article. I thought this was a beautiful article. I have learned the lesson of the soft answer the hard way. I don’t know though if I would even waste my time edifying strangers to homeschooling. I think unfortunately we as human beings have a hard time understanding what we have not experienced – which is why adversity teaches compassion. I have given up on caring what people outside my circle, think anymore. It just takes so much energy away from my true mission when I try to “convert” others to what my “calling” is all about. I guess giving no response is also a part of giving a soft answer. Thanks for the article.

]]> By: Angela Mills http://heartofthematteronline.com/how-to-respond-to-the-negative-stereotypes-of-homeschooling/comment-page-1#comment-31931 Angela Mills Sun, 06 Sep 2009 02:06:04 +0000 http://heartofthematteronline.com/?p=14013#comment-31931 I appreciate the verses, too! The best I can do lately is just nod and smile, I am afraid to open my mouth! A family member keeps asking, "When are you going to send them back to school?" and says, "Well, YOU certainly aren't going to be able to teach them what they need to know!" I just smile and say, "Well I pray that with help, I can." One of these days I am afraid I will blow up and be rude! I guess I'll just have to keep praying that I can respond kindly :) .-= Angela Mills´s last blog ..<a href="http://angelamills.wordpress.com/2009/09/05/quiet-time-kit-for-kids/" rel="nofollow">Quiet Time Kit for Kids</a> =-. I appreciate the verses, too! The best I can do lately is just nod and smile, I am afraid to open my mouth! A family member keeps asking, “When are you going to send them back to school?” and says, “Well, YOU certainly aren’t going to be able to teach them what they need to know!” I just smile and say, “Well I pray that with help, I can.” One of these days I am afraid I will blow up and be rude! I guess I’ll just have to keep praying that I can respond kindly :)
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]]> By: Ann Dunagan http://heartofthematteronline.com/how-to-respond-to-the-negative-stereotypes-of-homeschooling/comment-page-1#comment-31905 Ann Dunagan Sat, 05 Sep 2009 18:04:53 +0000 http://heartofthematteronline.com/?p=14013#comment-31905 Sallie, I appreciate your heart and the verses you share in this article. Thanks for sharing! .-= Ann Dunagan´s last blog ..<a href="http://harvestministry.org/vision-amy-carmichael" rel="nofollow">A Vision for Souls - by Amy Carmichael</a> =-. Sallie, I appreciate your heart and the verses you share in this article. Thanks for sharing!
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]]> By: Karen http://heartofthematteronline.com/how-to-respond-to-the-negative-stereotypes-of-homeschooling/comment-page-1#comment-31820 Karen Sat, 05 Sep 2009 00:31:19 +0000 http://heartofthematteronline.com/?p=14013#comment-31820 I've had many comments as well, but most recently was caught with my mouth wide open...literally!! I was having my teeth cleaned by the dental hygienist. She had asked me about homeschooling and what the laws are about reporting to the state, etc. I live in New Jersey, so I explained to her that all states are different, but in NJ you do not have to report to anyone. So after she started cleaning my teeth, she says to me, "Well it's very confusing to me. I thought that the public mandate was that ALL kids be EDUCATED." Here I am with my mouth wide open, having her scrape away at my teeth, unable to respond. By the time she was finished working on my teeth, it didn't seem right to go back and address it. On my drive home, I played the whole thing over in my head over and over, and was so disappointed in myself that I let the opportunity pass without responding, even if it seemed too late or awkward. I have been using that instance to learn from for the next time, because I know there will be a next time!! I’ve had many comments as well, but most recently was caught with my mouth wide open…literally!! I was having my teeth cleaned by the dental hygienist. She had asked me about homeschooling and what the laws are about reporting to the state, etc. I live in New Jersey, so I explained to her that all states are different, but in NJ you do not have to report to anyone. So after she started cleaning my teeth, she says to me, “Well it’s very confusing to me. I thought that the public mandate was that ALL kids be EDUCATED.” Here I am with my mouth wide open, having her scrape away at my teeth, unable to respond. By the time she was finished working on my teeth, it didn’t seem right to go back and address it. On my drive home, I played the whole thing over in my head over and over, and was so disappointed in myself that I let the opportunity pass without responding, even if it seemed too late or awkward. I have been using that instance to learn from for the next time, because I know there will be a next time!!

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