Book Review – Lives of Famous Romans by Olivia Coolidge

I took on the challenge of reading a “school book” for our month long road trip while we moved cross country from Arizona to North Carolina. I am not always good about reading books one at a time and knew that, at least this way, I couldn’t escape the book and I took no other books with me for my own reading pleasure, so to speak. My plan was to have this book review in a few weeks ago but with a move across the country, and internet access being not what I had planned, I am late. My apologies to the author and our editors for making them wait!

Lives of Famous Romans is listed for ages 12 to adult and covers the homeschool categories of ancient history, roman history, children’s literature, and biography. The book is 222 pages long including the index. It is all text with no pictures. To some people this may be unneccessary information, but to others it will give you a sense of whether this is a book your child would handle well. We all know as homeschooling parents that each child is different and learns at a different pace.

Mrs. Coolidge covers the lives of 12 of the most influential masterminds of Roman history. However, you do not just learn the basics about the man but you get an inside view of his life and the times around him, and the character of the man and his constituents. You also get a sense of which men hold strickly to an old Roman point of view.. ie who cares about Rome as a city and who cares about the idea of Rome. We start the book off with Cicero, and his great law accomplishments and never lacking courage, and end the book with Diocletian and Constantine, who had such extreme differing views of the Christian church. You’ll have to buy the book to find out who the other 9 famous Romans are ;-)

I am a genealogy buff and am very interested in geography as well because of my hobby. I loved that family heritage was included within the cameos of the men. I like learning who was descended from who and where they originated from. This makes this book a multi-tasking book to me because I can cover several subjects all at once when using it. The next time I read it along with my children, I will be sure to have a copy of an old world map, a timeline, as well as a family genealogy chart handy. By working in this way, my children will have a view of a living history.

All in all the book was a good read. It isn’t a novel and doesn’t need to read as such. It is a teaching book, one similarly written as Plutarch’s Lives, of which I also own a copy of. I would never dare sit and read the nearly 1300 pages of that at one sitting. Take your time and break it down with what works best for your family. Study the 12 men at once or at different times throughout the year. Most of all ENJOY learning all the things you never knew about these brilliant men of Roman history!

Sallie is an off-again, on-again homeschooling mom to her 4 children, ranging from elementary to high school. In her writings, she discusses the challenges of homeschooling a child with disabilities and offers insight to those who sometimes feel all alone in a round hole world.

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Happy Birthday Sallie


We would like to wish our wonderful Sallie a very blessed birthday. Please stop by her blog at Seaside Tales and leave her a birthday comment.

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Will you let yourself be blessed? AND, a Giveaway!!!

Bright red hair.

Sparkling blue eyes.

Pale porcelain skin speckled with a dash of freckles.

A smile that stretched from lips to eyes and melted into your heart a permanent reminder of her face.

Pudgy little fingers made perfect for a constant need of smoothing out her pretty lavender dress.

And clinched as tight as possible to my husband, whom she had just met!!

This was the sight that my eyes beheld on a recent Sunday morning as I walked into the sanctuary at church. Erica immediately released him and came to give me hugs. I think I love this little girl already!

Erica was visiting our church for the first time (hers) with her great-grandmother who has been a teacher to at least one, if not more, of my boys in her Sunday School class every year since we moved to the desert six years ago. Erica had been able to spend the night with Grama Jackie and so she came to church. She loved it! She loved Sunday School! She loved the other children! She loved the people! She is just a love kind of gal, you might say!

Soon after meeting Erica, I realized she is a special needs child. Her Grama was singing in choir and so Erica sat with us. I noticed she didn’t talk well but that she was at least 9 years old. That didn’t scare me away because I understand special needs children. I just did my best to communicate and gave her lots of hugs. I started asking questions when choir was finished and we had a short pause in the service for greeting. Is she deaf or mute? Does she have autism? The answers were “No.”

However, when Erica was born she suffered from a brain injury during the birth process, so those areas of her brain that work to communicate were damaged, having suffered from a lack of oxygen. She knows sign language extremely well, and she can hear every word you say so “don’t let her fool ya,” Grama told me! “I won’t,” I promised, and so our new friendship began. Erica decided she was tired and laid down in my lap and fell asleep for the next hour. She cuddled and twisted and found her comfortable niche then fell asleep with no concerns of the world. I was blessed.

I read an article last year that said research had proven children naturally gravitate towards good samaritans. I’m sure they have clinical studies and such that prove that to be true but I have to say it seems more to me that children gravitate towards L-O-V-E. At least that is what my eyes have seen when I watch children, particularly special needs children – in school, church, and on the playgrounds around me. Maybe they are one and the same. I guess you can’t really be a good samaritan if you don’t have love, or at least compassion, in your heart. Most of the time everyone accepts a child wanting to play or talk with them. I mean, who doesn’t love hugs and cuddles from a little one, right?

Too often, though, I have seen something else. Special needs children gravitate towards a person and they are shunned. They aren’t allowed to play with “normal” children. Adults tend to have this fear that this different “thing” about a special child will rub off onto their child and they will somehow lose their perfectness. I have experienced this with my own son and cuddled him while the tears washed away the sorrow of his soul put on him by others telling him he wasn’t ok.

The Bible says:

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of
the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were
written in your book before one of them came to be.” Psalm 139:
13-16

God is the ONE who created every single person on this great big HUGE planet earth! He KNOWS each and everyone of us and HE made us the way we are for a reason! There is NOT ONE PERSON who is imperfect in His eyes! I love that!

We sing a song at our church. The words simply say: The Lord has blessed me, blessed me, blessed me; The Lord’s been good to me! The Lord has blessed me, blessed me, blessed me; the Lord’s been good to me! The Lord has blessed me, blessed me blessed me; the Lord’s been good to me! No one else can do what the Lord has done! No one else can do… No one else can do what the LORD has done!

AMEN!! I LOVE THAT!! No one else can form a child inside its mother! Science has come a long way but it will never be able to put a soul in a child or know of its every single day of life before they even live those days. In this day and age, science may even look at a child formed by God and say its not good enough and tell the mother carrying it that it should be terminated. Science doesn’t know God! Science doesn’t know the plans God has for that child! Science can get it wrong!! God NEVER does!!!

So, my question to you is will you let yourself be blessed by touching the life of a special needs child?! Honestly, I have to warn you, though, that it will probably be YOU who is getting the blessing! Can you agree with God that these children are wonderfully made? Take a chance of sharing love and say Hello the next time you see a child who is a little bit different than the other children around them… you’ll be so glad you did!

Are you a blessed mom? Would you like to share the news with everyone around you?

We have been blessed this month to be able to offer you a handstamped necklace from Kristen’s Custom Creations.

Kristen donates a portion of her proceeds for some of her jewelry to the Gilda Club, which is a non-profit group speciallizing in helping children with cancer.

She has so graciously donated an I Am Blessed necklace for one of our lucky readers!!
Kristen describes this necklace by saying,

‘The “I Am Blessed” necklace includes two discs/round Sterling Silver charms, the smaller charm is 13mm and the larger is 16mm. It also includes a Swarovski charm dangle. The charms hang on a sturdy 16 inch snake chain. it has been blackened/antiqued to make the letters stand out.’

All of Kristen’s hand stamped creations are just that: hand-stamped! They won’t look perfect like a machine stamped, mass produced item but that is what I love about her work! This necklace is just perfect and I love it! I am so thrilled that we can share with one of our readers as well! So, go ahead and leave a comment on any two articles from this month’s magazine, and our editors, Amy and Amy, will pick a winner with the random generator, like they do with all of our great giveaways! And, don’t forget to head on over to Kristen’s Etsy shop to check out her other beautiful designs as well!! **This giveaway ends on May 16th**

Sallie is an off-again, on-again homeschooling mom to her 4 children, ranging from elementary to high school. In her column “The Square Peg”, she discusses the challenges of homeschooling a child with disabilities and offers insight to those who sometimes feel all alone in a round hole world.

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Let’s Play!

Let’s Play!

Home school doesn’t have to be work, work, work! It can be fun and games, too. Fun and games doesn’t necessarily mean not educational either. Toys can be learning! Wonderful, exciting, adventurous toys! But not if our special needs children toss them to the side and play with the box they came in instead. *Sigh* I bet you’ve been there, done that. I know I sure have! So, how do we buy toys that can stimulate and teach our children? What are some things we need to look for? Well, let’s take a look!

Each of our children all have the same types of skills from birth on that they need to work on to function properly as they age and develop. Some have to work harder on particular skills, and maybe some have to use more of one skill to make up for another function that is missing (like in a blind child whose hearing may be increased because of his lack of sight). Those skills include fine motor, gross motor, language, social, tactile, visual, auditory, thinking, language and more. It’s important that we find and use toys that generate thinking and learning in our play time to encourage learning in all of our children, but its especially important with our special needs children as they will need more help in developing certain areas.

I like to buy toys that have multiple uses. Multi-tasking toys, if you will. For instance, gross motor skills use large muscle movement while fine motor skills deal with grasping and your hand-eye coordination. My son’s favorite game has always been Hungry Hungry Hippo. This game is a perfect example of a multi-tasking game. You have to use gross motor skills in slapping the hippo lever to eat the marbles while also using fine motor skills to pick up each individual small marble.

Boy or girl, young or old, I bet most of you have a city play mat with cars and a town, or a railroad table with a train set. These are great multi-tasking toys as they help develop social skills between siblings and friends, as well as providing visual stimulus by keeping the cars on the road. They also encourage creativity and language by providing a reason for our children to use words to express what they are thinking and imagining in their play time.

Puzzles force us to use and develop our fine motor, creativity, thinking, and visual skills. The bigger the better! I love the huge floor puzzles that my kids get down on the floor with and work on together. Together… that’s another skill! Social skills! Anyone with an aspie/autistic child understands the need for learning social skills!

Card and board games are perfect for helping to develop thinking and memory skills. They encourage our children to work together (uhm, social skills again) and help teach everything from colors, to math, to reading, and more. My children currently are in love with the game Wiz Kidz by Discovery Toys. You take two cards — one has a letter and one has creative questions. It’s not a puzzle. It’s not a quiz. It makes you think and it’s fun! Our favorite letter/question combo so far? A body part that starts with the letter “q”. Yeah, we’re still trying to figure an answer to that one out.

And, of course, I can’t forget electronic games. Wii you like to play? I can’t express in enough words the joy Wii has given my family while having fun and teaching all those necessary developmental skills. There is golfing, bowling, tennis, and MORE. It teaches hand-eye coordination. It teaches social skills. It teaches thinking. It teaches visual. It teaches EVERYTHING! I love it!

The toys listed above are a great place to start if you know what category of special needs your child fits into. What if, however, you’ve just got a diagnosis and you have no idea what it means. Perhaps you are feeling lost and don’t have a clue as to what toys would be helpful to YOUR child. There are a few categories to look at to help you at least have a place to start.

Physical Disabilities: these affect the motor systems and can include skeletal, muscle and joint abnormalities which in turn limit an individual’s ability to move, stand, sit, play, reach, and so forth. Cerebral Palsy, Multiple Sclerosis, Spina Bifida are examples of physical disabilities.

Sensory Disabilities: these affect the ability to gather and understand information from the environment through any of the five senses (touch, sight, sound, smell, taste). Some of the diagnosis’ that fit in this category would be hearing and visual impairment as well as Sensory Integration Disorder.

Communicative Disabilities: these affect the ability to communicate verbally due to limited, or altered comprehension and use of language. Autism and Pervasive Delelopment Disorder, stuttering, speech, and other language delays fall into this category.

Cognitive Disabilities: these affect the ability to process information, reason, remember and express emotions. Down syndrome, Attention Deficit Disorder, Attention Hyperactivity Disorder, Bi-polar, Jacobsens Syndrome are examples of what would fall under the cognitive disability category.

If you still aren’t sure which category your child falls under, then call your doctor and ask. They are more than willing to help you understand how to better help your child and you can find a wealth of information on the internet as well. If you do know which category your child falls under, then you can start searching for toys based on that category as well as your own child’s
individual needs.

Several places you can find great guides that will recommend and help you search out toys are:

http://www.lekotek.org/
http://www.ableplay.org/
http://www.toysrus.com/ (look at their toy guide for differently-abled kids)http://www.discoverytoysinc.com/
http://www.specialneedstoys.com/usa/
http://www.adaptivechild.com/index.html

So, now that we know we can have fun while playing, and learn while we are at it, let’s get out there and check out some new toys! Put your lists together now for birthdays and holidays and share your lists with friends and family!

Sallie is an off-again, on-again homeschooling mom to her 4 children, ranging from elementary to high school. In her column “The Square Peg,” she discusses the challenges of homeschooling a child with disabilities and offers insight to those who sometimes feel all alone in a round hole world.

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Order and Structure

Order and Structure

Children who have disabilities or learning challenges typically need structure and organization. I was reminded of that on Christmas morning while looking at the mess once called our living room. Yet, there in one small corner was an organized structure of unwrapped items. The wrapping paper had been neatly scrunched into a ball and Caleb had lined up all of his gifts. Even the spoils of his stocking were organized. The tootsie rolls were stacked next to the smarties which were lined neatly in a row. The jumbo candy cane log lay down the side and everything else was neatly in tow. There was no question about it: this was Caleb’s area!

I should mention that Caleb takes after his dad in this area of neatness. I once walked into Mike’s office at work and he had warned me about the “mess” at his desk. The office had recently been restructured and so I walked in and sat down at the messiest desk. Boy was I surprised when a Marine other than my husband came over and said “Can I help you ma’am?” I told him I was just waiting for my husband and he confusedly pointed to another desk and said “Uh, that ONE is Gunny’s desk!” This desk was as perfectly arranged as if it was in an office furniture showroom display. Everything down to the stapler and tape dispenser were arranged perfectly and in order. No, Caleb did NOT get that from me!

I hate organization. I am one of those people who knows where everything is in my chaos and if you move it to straighten it up then I am L.O.S.T.. Really, I would lose my head if it wasn’t screwed on! So, how do I manage to keep things organized and straight when I am obviously not wired that way and my autistic child would die without said organization?! Well, the God’s honest truth is that most days I don’t. I tell myself as I look around at “my style of organized chaos” that I’m teaching Caleb a good thing because we live in an imperfect chaotic world. That doesn’t mean I let everything go to pot but God has shown me that sometimes autistics can be trained by learning to cope with what we neurotypical people (NT) call everyday life. We all work at it as a family and somehow the end result works.

Compromise is where we all exist in a happy medium. There are important battles which Caleb needs to win — ones we all need him to win. One of those would be having his clothes neatly arranged in his drawers and closet in a manner that he likes. If I don’t help him do that then I run the chance of smelling the results of it two weeks later when he finally asks if he could PLEASE have a new pair of socks because there aren’t any in his dresser. Where the other children would just go to the “yet to be matched” jumble of socks in the laundry basket, this thought never passes into Caleb’s mind. He knows he has to wear socks. Therefore, if he looks in the drawer and there aren’t any there, then he just puts on the ones he wore the day before, and the day before, and the day before…Eewwww! We’ve worked together to train ourselves to put laundry away as soon as possible.

We don’t always succeed. For instance, my bed is currently laden with clean clothes that I sorted through this morning for putting away. The weekend roared through our lives like a busy lion and I wasn’t able to complete my jobs in a timely manner. The stacks of laundry coming out of the laundry room Saturday evening after everyone went to bed landed on my living room sofa. Yesterday they were quickly stacked in a corner of my bedroom, when on short notice, we had company come for dinner after morning church. We’ll pick back up this morning on laundry “perfection” and get all those socks and tees and so forth put neatly away like Caleb (and really me, too) likes.

Another compromise we work on is school. The psychologist fussed at me about my square box thinking about neat writing with an hour of this subject and an hour of that subject. He told me to “get over it already” because that was “normal” school and hadn’t I pulled Caleb out of that environment so he wouldn’t have to try and fit it anyway?! He told me to stop making Caleb do busy work but to organize and have a list. I listened and this past year spent two VERY FULL days completely organizing a schedule for all four of my children for EVERY DAY for the WHOLE year. No one has any questions about what their work for the day is and everyone is enjoying school now. I still have days like any other home school family where the schedule will get thrown off but again we compromise and we make it work. We pick up where we left off on our list and we keep going. Without this schedule for school, not only would my children falter in their work, but so would I. I may dislike organization but this schedule keeps me accountable and our one day of taking a break doesn’t turn into an unplanned two week vacation.

Schooling most likely will always present challenges for our special needs children. When we, as parents, learn what it is that our child needs the most to succeed, and make changes or compromise to accommodate those needs, our children will grown and thrive in ways that awe and inspire us. Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us that “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven.” Homeschooling your child with disabilities is a season of your life and a season of their life. Work with your child to make it the best season for both of you!

Sallie is an off-again, on-again homeschooling mom to her 4 children, ranging from elementary to high school. In her column “The Square Peg,” she discusses the challenges of homeschooling a child with disabilities and offers insight to those who sometimes feel all alone in a round hole world.

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Diagnosis and Bringing Them Home

Diagnosis and Bringing Them Home

Hello. My name is Sallie and I homeschool my son who has Asperger’s Syndrome.

Sometimes it almost feels like we are introducing ourselves at a 12-step meeting when we talk about our children who have disabilities. Like maybe there is something we can do to make it all go away or make it better if we just confess our “sins” to the right group of people. The truth is, nothing we say will make our children any different than what they already are. And, really, would we want that? I think for most of us the answer would be a resounding NO!

We began the diagnosis process for Asperger Syndrome, an autistic spectrum disorder, for our son Caleb in December of 2003. It’s hard to believe we’ve just passed the 4 year mark of the initial diagnosis. He was 9 at the time and far past the normal age for diagnosis. There are many reasons for that.

First, we just thought our son was the strongest willed creature God had ever created. Really, really, REALLY strong willed! We had problems feeding. We had problems crawling. We had problems sitting. We had problems driving. We had problems sitting. We just had problems!

Second, I had been a pharmacy technician in the Air Force in the early 90′s when our first child was born, and saw many zombie-like children coming in with their parents to refill prescriptions for Ritalin, the most common drug of the day for ADD/ADHD. I also had some behind the scenes looks at the way pharmaceutical companies ran, and though I’m not completely against using medicine, I promised myself I would never have one of my children on Ritalin. Frankly, I couldn’t justify medicating my child simply to make him more tolerable for other people! When the schools started saying “He must have ADD” but their own tests showed otherwise, and yet they still pushed for medication of some sort, we refused to let them test him anymore and brought him home to learn.

Lastly, God put the right people in the right places over the years to give us just the information we needed for child rearing that was perfect for our son, in our situation, at exactly the right moments. One of my favorite scriptures throughout this time became Ecclesiastes 3:11 “He has made everything beautiful in its time.” God’s timing is perfect and we have learned that lesson many times over again in the past four years.

For example, as strong as it may sound to many people, the first tip ever given to us by a parenting counselor was to restrain our son by holding him down in a dark and quiet room. Sitting quietly in the middle of the room with all four of my limbs wrapped around my then 2 year old was the first step in teaching him that tantrums, or meltdowns as they are commonly called with autistic children, would not be tolerated. The first time I sat with him lasted over an hour and I needed a nap and recovery period when it was all over.

Each time we had to do this, the time of restraint got shorter and shorter and by the end of a few weeks, I merely had to walk to the bedroom and turn off the light and the inappropriate behavior stopped immediately. We now know those tantrums were the results of over-stimulation and Caleb was processing all the sensory issues he had the only way his two year old mind could grasp to do it. God’s timing in teaching us this lesson is one that I have pondered many times.

We had to suck up our pride (BIG TIME) to enlist the help of a professional, and then we had to be consistent with holding him and whispering sweetly to him, or sometimes just not saying anything (remember your momma used to tell you if you can’t say something nice…), but I firmly believe we would not be where we are today if we hadn’t listened to that counselor. We’ve talked to many counselors since then who said they can’t believe she told us to do that. Maybe she was just “old school” in her training or something but I fully believe she was sent to us by God and I will forever be thankful to her.

During this fresh start of the new year I’d like to ask you to resolve to gain a better understanding about the uniqueness of each of your children. What can you do to help them learn better? To learn easier? The following are some great links that have been so pivotal in helping me find the information I needed to help my son, and others I know, succeed in everyday learning. I hope they will help you too!

http://www.nathhan.com/ ~ National Challenged Homeschoolers Associated Network
http://www.nacd.org/labels/homeschooling.html ~ National Association for Child Development
http://www.learningabledkids.com/ ~ Learning Abled Kids
http://www.chadd.org/ ~ Children and Adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder
http://www.nhen.org/specneed/default.asp?id=271 ~ National Home Education Network
http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/ ~ Online Asperger Syndrome Information and Support
http://www.stompproject.org/ ~ Specialized Training of Military Parents (specifically for military members with special needs children)
http://www.uniquelygifted.org/ ~ Uniquely Gifted: Resources for Gifted Children with Special Needs
http://www.joniandfriends.org/ ~ Joni Eareckson Tada: offers camps for disabled children and family retreats
http://www.awana.org/parents/default.aspx?id=84 ~ AWANA clubs are great resources to teach your children social and emotional skills in a loving Christ-centered environment!
http://christianadhd.com/index.php ~ ADHD of the Christian Kind
http://www.woodbinehouse.com/ ~ Books on Special Needs Education
http://www.dougflutiejrfoundation.org/index.php ~ Doug Flutie Jr Foundation for Autism
http://www.bazzo.net/ ~ Jacobsen Syndrome/11Q Terminal Deletion Disorder
http://www.bartonreading.com/ ~ Help for your child with Dyslexia
http://www.interdys.org/ ~ International Dyslexia Association
http://www.therapeutichomeschooling.org/ ~ Help for homeschooling your child with Bipolar Disorder

Sallie is an off-again, on-again homeschooling mom to her 4 children, ranging from elementary to high school. In her column “The Square Peg”, she discusses the challenges of homeschooling a child with disabilities and offers insight to those who sometimes feel all alone in a round hole world.

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