Teaching to Their Differences

If you homeschool more than one child, you have undoubtedly noticed that each of your children learns differently.

Now I realize that I am hardly shocking you with my insight here, but I know that I often have to remind myself that not all of my children will follow in the footsteps of my oldest daughter.  Last month I wrote here about “T” and her early and loquacious speaking patterns.  ”T” was able to communicate her thoughts and needs to me early on in life.  In terms of her schooling, with very few exceptions, she has been a model student.  She is an avid and appreciative learner who is currently two grade levels ahead of her age.

Were she my only child, I might be tempted to wonder what all the fuss was about when it comes to reluctant students or challenging children.

However, God, in His infinite wisdom, gifted me with “N”, two years “T”‘s junior.  At six, “N” is three to four years ahead of grade level in math, and two years ahead of grade level in all other subjects.  He can read anything you put in front of him — if he feels like it.

Ah! Therein lies the rub! Unlike “T”, “N” has no innate desire to please, and no real love of school. He has no interest in continuing a subject once he feels he has mastered it, regardless of whether or not I have officially assigned work in that area.  There are days when I threaten to duct tape him to his chair (fear not! My good sense always prevails!) just to get through a twenty minute math lesson.

Me: “N”, you cannot do a two-digit minus two-digit borrowing problem in your head!
“N”: throws out the correct answer defiantly.
Me: Oh, er, I guess you can…but I still want you to write the problem and the answer!

Okay.  Here’s where I need an intervention.  Why? Why do I need him to write the problem and the answer? Because ”T” will gladly do her math lesson every day, all 28 problems and answers in her math notebook, and then cheerfully move on to chanting Latin declensions? “N” is not “T”.

While both are gifted, they learn differently.

Perhaps most importantly, “N” is a boy.  When many of we women were children, we loved playing school.  Think carefully, now…how many boys do you remember who shared that love? Probably not many.

If you have boys, then I’m definitely not telling you anything you don’t know: boys are physical.  They have more energy than you ever believed possible.  I’m sure there are some who love sitting at a school table for hours a day, but they don’t live in my house.  That’s why I constantly have to ask myself what my goals are for my son’s education.  What do I want him to learn?


Well, in terms of the math example above, I want him to master the concept of borrowing. The fact that he can do it in his head does not in any way mitigate the fact that he can borrow.  If anything, it demonstrates his mastery conclusively.  Do I know that he can set up such a math problem correctly on paper and then solve it? Yes, I’ve seen him do it.  Hence, I don’t need to see him do it 15 more times in succession.  That would satisfy some need that *I* have, not some need that he has, educationally speaking. I have some preconceived ideas about math.  One, obviously, is that a six year old can’t borrow in his head.  ”N” has been obliterating my preconceived ideas about, well, everything since he was born, so I’m not surprised that this one is going by the wayside as well.

School with “N” will not always look like school with “T”.  ”T” will follow her lesson plans, and will then use her free time to pursue her academic interest of the moment (mummification! Shakespeare! the Mayflower!).  ”N”, on the other hand, will use his free time like most boys: dirt, legos, and wrestling with his brother.

Thus, I have to toss the lesson plans out the window during school time and let him lead me. If he demonstrates mastery of his math lesson within the first five minutes, we move on to the next math lesson.  If he can spell all of the words on this week’s spelling list, we move on to the next.  If he all but rolls his eyes when I try to have repeat the definition of an adverb *again*, I let it go. I only have “N”‘s brain formally for a few hours a day.  I don’t want to waste that time checking off pointless boxes in my lesson plan book.  Most days, I let him set the pace.  On principle, I’m still not in favor of child-led learning, but when the child leads more quickly and more creatively than my planning can accommodate, I have to give the idea some credence.  Of course, the flip side is that on some days, we just don’t get that much done.

Flexibility is key with all children, but especially, I think, with special needs children. It’s a lesson I’m still learning every day.

How about you? Do you school all of your children the same way, or do you allow for different personalities to dictate different schooling styles?

Laura Delgado gave birth to four children in exactly 40 months, but cheated since the last two were twins. She now happily homeschools her 8,6, and two 4 year-olds. She earned a Ph.D. in Political Science from Rice University, but finds that she uses her undergraduate Great Books education far more in her homeschooling pursuits. In addition to writing for various homeschooling publications, she creates educational materials for edHelper. For homeschooling helps and curriculum reviews, please visit her at http://livingasmartha.blogspot.com.

The Autism Spectrum

Wondering if your child might be on the spectrum? The first thing people ask me when I tell them my son has Asperger’s Syndrome, a form of Autism, is how did I know that Xander had a problem? To be perfectly honest, I wasn’t sure he did. He seemed like a perfectly normal, albeit quirky, child. Sure, he was super hyper, but he is a boy, and so were his brothers to a degree. The tell-tale ‘signs’ were all there, but they could easily be mistaken for many other issues found in normal childhood development. Some of these include:

1. Hyper-focusing

What we thought: hyper-focusing on on Buzz Lightyear, and more recently oceanography and marine biology,  all seemed very normal. There are many kids at this age who still have not given up their security blankets, have imaginary friends or a particular show or subject that they can’t get enough of.

Why it was a problem: Xander could not let go of these subjects. It was as if he was obsessed. Loss of important items or books caused major hysteria and meltdowns. We have since learned how to use these things to our advantage. For instance, if Xander takes a toy from his brother, we can ask him what he thinks Buzz would do in that situation. Since Buzz is his hero, he wants to do good things too, so he gives the toy back to his brother. We have also learned that by providing Xander with reading materials on sharks and lighthouses and other aquatic creatures he is more apt to calmly sit in his beanbag and read. He does not forget a thing about it because it’s what he obsesses on.

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2. Developmentally behind in fine and gross motor skills.

What we thought: We thought our son was just clumsy, and perhaps lazy a time or two. There isn’t a wall in any house we’ve lived in that hasn’t been met by my dear son. At any point in time there is a collage of varying colored bruises from head to toe. My personal thought? ALL BOY.

Why it was a problem: We found out that Asperger’s children are behind on their fine and gross motor skills. Xander learned how to crawl, walk, and run late. He has major issues with sharing his food, with his apparently also very hungry, shirt because he cannot manage utensils very well. He also still appears to ‘scribble’ draw, though his imagination will tell you it is something altogether quite wonderful.

3. Speech Issues

What we thought: When Xander was 18 months old, there was a period of time that he spoke wonderfully! We understood all of it! Then it completely went away. We often joked that he realized we could understand him and didn’t like it, so he quit. We chalked up his current speech issues to being 4 because there are many children his age that I can’t understand at all.

Why it was a problem: After speaking with the child psychologist, we learned that gaining a developmental skill such as walking, talking, etc., and then suddenly losing it was a sign of Autism. I also learned a new term, echolalia, which is the act of repeating certain sounds or phrases repeatedly. Usually when someone says the word ‘Autism’ the common vision that comes to mind is a child rocking back and forth repeating the same phrase over and over again. Not all types of echolalia are like this. For Xander it was not so obvious.

Me: Do you understand me?
Xander: Understand me?

I always took this to mean yes, when in fact, he was trying to process what I’d asked him.

Me: It’s time to clean your room.
Xander: Clean my room. CLEAN my ROOM? CLEAN MY ROOOOOM??!!

I always thought he was just being a brat and throwing a tantrum, when he was actually showing us ‘stress echolalia,’ which occurs when what is said or asked is too overwhelming for the child to process. We alleviated this problem by making the request smaller such as, “Xander, would you put all of the Legos into the blue bucket?” and these requests continue until the room is cleaned. No arguments.

4. Social Anxiety

What we thought: Xander gets VERY wild when we go out into public in an unstructured environment (daycare, a gym, baseball practice, or grocery store). He starts, what we thought, showing off and getting super hyper. We thought this was a matter of him misbehaving. He was disciplined excessively, considering he did not understand.

Why it was a problem: Asperger’s kids are all about routine, routine, routine. If anything deviates from this — a quick stop at the post office, when he would normally be playing outside, later naptime due to the kids getting out of school early, etcetera — causes major overstimulation, anxiety, fear, and stress. We learned that he has to be prepared to go places, to change routines, etc. Spring break was a HUGE ordeal for Xander because he was used to his brothers being at school and on the third day they were home he was a mess.

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Some other things that are characteristic of Xander’s Asperger’s are noises he makes when he’s stressed out (I call it the sprinkler noise, because that’s what it sounds like to me). When he gets super wound up his body seems to pulse with energy. He also sees the world in black and white only — it’s either right or wrong, there are no gray areas. In other words, he’ll call it like he sees it, whether it’s hurtful, mean, inappropriate, etc. He isn’t aware of society’s social rules. We will have to teach him by memorization.

I encourage any of you that have questions about whether or not your child has Autism to contact your pediatrician and have your child tested. Remember, we all have a choice about what we accept for our children. We are their number one advocates and the only ones who have the ability to step forward and say “no” on their behalf.

“By wisdom a house is built and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.”
Proverbs 24:3- 4

Angela DeRossett is military wife, homeschooling mother, and an advocate for autism research. She also serves as the Heart of the Matter Review Coordinator. Angela can be found blogging at Homeschooling the Chaotic Family and Memoirs of a Chaotic Mommy.

Vision Therapy: From Skeptic to Cheerleader

Get Back Here! I know what you’re thinking . . .

Vision Therapy? Why in the world would I care about THAT?”

WAIT! Let me ask you not to move on just yet. I understand that the topic of “Vision Therapy” sounds remote and weird and totally unrelated to any home school problems you may be having. I understand, because 8 years ago I said the very same thing (only with a know-it-all, condescending little attitude.) And, because I DIDN’T look into it as soon as I could have, I very nearly paid a price that no parent wants to pay. So, humor me, for just a minute and stick around.

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First, let me say that my main purpose  is to encourage and equip parents who are trying to teach a child who is struggling to make academic progress. As most parents and teachers know, these struggles can be caused by a long list of situations such as:

  • simple immaturity – they’re just not ready Mom (I had a child like this.)
  • limited attention span – boys ages 4-9 are stunningly famous for this (I had a child like this, too.)
  • dietary situations – for example: SUGAR (Dear Lord did I ever have one like this!)
  • specific, tightly defined – and maybe undiscovered – learning style – (5 kids, 5 learning styles)

So whether you are dealing with a third grader who can’t spell, a fourth grader who can’t read, a fifth grader with comprehension issues, or a junior high student with abstract math problems, the root cause or causes can be, and probably are, varied and inter-related. In future articles, we are going to tackle these issues and more – in great detail.

However, I would not be able to sleep at night if I didn’t first address a situation that (if present in your child) will most certainly undermine your every attempt to help them , regardless of what academic “symptoms” they are displaying.

Let me explain.

When my daughter started first grade, she made some progress – some. I had enough experience to know that she probably just needed more time to mature. Time did not help. By the time she was 8 1/2, she was no further along in school than she had been two years prior. Her 6 year old sister could read circles around her. No matter what I tried – nothing. One minute she could read a word, the next, it was as if she’d never seen it. One day she could add two digit numbers, the next day, she was all over the page. Her writing was crammed together without any hint of spaces between words. She understood and even remembered letter sounds and phonics rules, and could explain them to me, but could not apply them to written words. By this time, she cried every time she thought it was time for school . Her personality changed, she withdrew. She began to cry if I walked two feet away from her at dance class. She wanted to play on the softball team, but would fold into tears during games in confusion. And she couldn’t explain any of it to me.

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Because my background is in special education/remediation, I tested her up one side and down the other, and I can tell you that 2 + 2 never came close to being 4. Nothing that was going on with her made any sense at all and I had done everything I knew to do. Having her tested by “experts” in the school system would only get a label for her and would not solve the problem.

Then I remembered an article I’d read by a local optometrist about something she called – Learning Related Vision Problems. The article stated that children with certain “vision” problems would struggle in school in various ways and she listed these “ways”. My daughter displayed 19 out of 20 of the symptoms! But, I reasoned, that because she already wore glasses (since the age of 4) that her problems could not possibly be visual.

Now, skip to me, months later in that very doctor’s office, forking out good money for my daughter to be “evaluated”. In my heart of hearts I believed this was a complete waste of time. The kid wore glasses already, for Pete’s sake! How could all of her issues be related to vision? But I had run out of options, and I needed to feel like I was doing something! As I sat in the waiting room – for two hours – I became even more confused when I began to read the “Testimonials” book compiled by parents whose children had experienced ‘vision therapy’. On page after page, parent after parent, went on and on about how “vision therapy” changed their child’s life. They spoke of children “coming out of their shells”, and excelling in school, and enjoying studying and reading. They spoke of being desperate to help their children, who by all accounts, were crashing and burning just like my daughter had been. “How in the world” I asked my self, “is any of this possible? She’s not blind – she wears glasses! This is all too weird.” I wanted to leave, but I really had no where else to look.

Days later, back in the doctor’s office, I received a diagnosis. They found her to be a “Level 2″ therapy needs patient. She had double vision at 18 inches, (from her eyes) and also at several yards away. To be able to see a single image, she had to strain her eyes at a level she couldn’t maintain for more than a few seconds (much like if you or I would “cross” our eyes and try to hold it – ouch!) She had little control over being able to change focus from near to far and vice versa. She was unable to track objects (or words!) in any direction for more than a few seconds. In short, she had very little control of the muscles controlling her eyes.

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Then the doctor told me how this diagnosis “looked” from my daughter’s point of view. When she looked at written work (books, letters, word cards, mom’s handwriting, etc.) all she saw was a jumble of squiggles. Because her eyes did not work together, each eye saw its own image – double vision. She never saw individual letters, much less words on a page, much less spaces between words, much less punctuation! Trying to focus, for seconds at a time, made her dizzy, nauseous, and full of dread concerning anything related to school. In a crowd, her double vision at a distance, magnified the crowd, and she would lose sight of me as soon as I stepped away. In dance class, with mirrored walls, it was even worse. On the softball field, sometimes she saw one ball coming toward her, sometimes she saw two. Though she “understood” everything that had ever been taught/told to her, what she “saw” never matched what she heard – she wasn’t seeing what the world saw. Confusion reigned supreme in her little mind and she had no way to explain it. So she withdrew, and cried and displayed strange behavior and had meltdowns.

I don’t remember how long I cried after the doctor explained it all to us. I just remember promising God that if He would heal her heart of all of the confusion, that we would do our part and commit to the months of therapy. He did, and we did. Within the first two months of therapy, she began to change. As her double vision changed, for the first time, to single vision, she began to be able to explain the changes that were happening. I cried. At times her therapist would shed some light on how and why my sweet daughter said and did things that made no sense. As therapy continued, all – ALL of those problems and behaviors vanished. Today she is a 15 year old high school student who would rather read than eat. She is reading The Chronicles of Narnia for the 100th time, she draws, knits hats and scarves, plays guitar and makes A’s and B’s in Algebra – without crying. And if she loses me in a crowd these days, trust me, it’s because she’s trying to.

I want to say that never once, as a small child, did she ever run into walls, or stumble a lot, or anything else that would lead us to even imagine that she had any vision problems that were not solved by her glasses. She learned to walk at 9 months, talked early and hit every milestone a parent would expect. There were simply no clues until her academics demanded visual attention that she couldn’t give. As a former special education teacher, I can tell you, that NO ONE would have known what to do with her, because this type of vision screening is not normally done. An optometrist can not find these problems by looking into a child’s eyes with his/her equipment. They must be specifically evaluated using techniques that are unique to an optometrist trained in diagnosing such situations. Remember, my daughter, and many others like her, had been professionally, medically treated for their “vision” problems. This means that they are given glasses to accommodate for the inability of the muscles controlling the lenses of the eye. This corrected the “blurriness” of what she saw, but didn’t change the fact that she saw two of everything – something caused by a totally different set of eye muscles.

Anywho, years later, I went through the training myself, and worked as a vision therapist for the very same doctor. I just can’t tell you how many times I sat with crying parents who were just discovering that their precious child had been struggling in school for years with an undetected, weirdo eye problem. And then, months later, we always were the best of friends as they perceived that I had worked some miracle in their child’s life. I’ve seen it happen so many times, but it NEVER got old!

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So, you can see that, no matter how brilliant a teacher I may have been (very funny, I know), no matter how much effort I might have exerted, no matter how many methods I could have experimented with, my little girl would still be struggling to this day, had her vision not been properly taken care of. She’d still have double vision, little success in school, unexplainable fears, and probably a few nice “labels” like, dyslexic, ADD, learning disabled and a host of other things dragging her down and trying to convince her that she was dumb and unable to become all that God had planned for her.

No, Thank You.

I will leave you with links to a couple of awesome web sites that are good starting places for anyone with more questions.

http://www.advancedeyecenter.com/vision_therapy.html

http://www.visiontherapystories.org/

Take some time and really look around these sites. They are filled with lots of information along with many, many success stories. And, if it turns out that you never have these particular needs in your family, then just keep this information in your back pocket for someone else. But, trust me, if you ever find yourself in my situation, and some of you will, you’ll be thanking God for this “long-winded article you read way-back-when in that home school magazine.”

Most of all – and I can’t stress this enough – pray, pray, pray! Our creator, the One who knows how many hairs are on your head, knows exactly what is going on with that child of yours – in detail – and He’s talking! Ask Him.

“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all . . .

and it will be given to him.” James 1:5

Finally, don’t forget to write me – so we can cry together – and then later, do the happy dance!

darnelleDarnelle is a wife and a mother to 5 children: 4 homeschoolers currently in 3rd, 7th, 9th, and 11th grades and one college sophomore. All 5 children have been home schooled from preschool. She has experience teaching in public, private, parochial and special schools but her favorite . . . is home school! Her certification is in the areas of special education and remediation. Her writing aims at assisting parents in finding and then correcting trouble spots that often cause academic problems and struggles. Children – and their parents – who are free from the burden of academic struggles, can begin to love learning again, just like God intended! Visit her blog, All Things Work Together.

How to tell WHY Your Child is Struggling

~This is a compilation of Dianne Craft’s article…see www.diannecraft.org, and www.hslda.org/strugglinglearner.~

Many educators who follow brain research believe that there are four “Learning Gates” that need to be properly functioning for a child to have an easy time learning.

The Four Learning Gates are:

  • Visual processing
  • Visual/motor processing (writing)
  • Auditory processing
  • Focus/attention processing

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Before you begin evaluating your child, you should know that once the process is complete you may be faced with a fundamental choice: compensation or correction.

Many educational experts debate whether it is more beneficial to help a struggling learner compensate for the learning processes that are difficult, or if time and effort should be spent in the pursuit of a correction of the processing problem.

An example of compensation would be for a child to use a keyboard at a very young age to write papers when he or she struggles with handwriting. A correction would be to do a handwriting exercise that eliminates the reversed letters, for instance, and helps the child write more neatly.  Another common compensation is to reduce the spelling list required at a grade level for a child who is struggling with spelling. A correction would be to train the child’s photographic memory so that the task of spelling is easier.

Many times this does not need to be a debate. One can easily pursue both compensation and correction simultaneously. Compensation makes the learning task easier while the correction reduces the stress in the child’s learning system so that learning can flow. This is called “opening up the child’s learning gate.”

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LEARNING GATE #1: VISUAL PROCESSING

A child struggling with visual processing issues will display some of these characteristics:

  • Reading reversals (“was” for “saw”, “on” for “no”, “big” for “dig”, etc.) after initial introduction of the words
  • Skipping of small words when reading
  • Needing to use finger to track after age 7
  • Oral reading that is smooth at the beginning of the page, but becomes more labored the longer a child reads
  • Experiencing eye fatigue shortly after reading begins (watery eyes, rubbing eyes, etc.) This particular characteristic is also symptomatic of eye control problems – see article on “Vision Therapy” in HOTM’s February 2008 issue
  • Yawning shortly after reading begins
  • Continuing to struggle even after being prescribed eye glasses (addressed in “Vision Therapy” article – February 2008 issue)

INFORMAL EVALUATION:

The following informal evaluations can be done at home to help a parent determine of a child is experiencing a blocked learning gate. Be sure, as well, to have your child’s vision acuity checked by an optometrist or ophthalmologist to make sure that this is not the cause of the child’s reading problem.

Eye tracking:With the child standing three feet in front of you, take an interesting object and slowly move it in a left-to-right manner in front of the child’s eyes. Ask the child to keep his eyes on the target. Do this for about four swings of the target. Watch to see if the child’s eyes skip any spot, or if they begin to water. Then slowly move the target in a horizontal figure-eight manner within the child’s shoulder width, making sure that the target is not too close to the child’s face. See if he can look in those various directions without skipping or his eyes looking stressed in any way. Make a note of your findings. There are specific exercises that can be done to strengthen a child’s eye teaming abilities to reduce the stress in the visual learning system.

Cross crawl:Many times, younger children have difficulty reading because they aren’t efficiently crossing the midline of their body. This is the process that normally occurs when a baby is crawling. However, some children develop a “learning gate” problem in this area because they did not crawl, or they crawled but had a traumatic even (such as a fall or back-to-back ear infections) that inhibited this natural process and made it much less effective.

Try this: Stand in front of the child and demonstrate the cross crawling movement by lifting the right knee and tapping it with the left hand, then doing the same with the left knee and right hand. Do this for a minute so the child can observe you. Then ask the child to do it also. Don’t correct the child at first, but let him or her figure it out while you continue to do your cross crawl movements in from of him. If the child can’t do it, and becomes frustrated, then you can start him out by having him march with his legs while you touch the opposite knee with his hands. After doing this for a bit, remove your hands from the child’s hands and let him do this himself.

Make a note of your findings. If you confirm that your child has midline issues, there are specific things that you can do to address this problem.

Reading: It is believed that there are four components to reading successfully:

  • Eye tracking ability
  • Sight word memorization
  • Phonics (letter sounds and word decoding ability)
  • Reading comprehension

We can observe a child’s oral reading to help us determine if eye tracking ability is contributing to the child’s reading difficulties. If the child can read, have him read a passage, and carefully watch his eyes to see if he reads to the end of the line, and then starts the new line, but quickly darts back with his eyes to the last line to make sure that he is in the right spot. We all do this once in a while. Watch to see if the child does this frequently. This takes much more effort to read when this saccadic eye movement is occurring.

Also observe if the child begins reading the word “dig” by forming a “b” with his mouth first. Any time a child reverses a letter or word, six months after being taught to read, that is a sign of stress in the child’s visual processing system. Make a note of your findings. There are specific things that can be done to make this process easier for your child.

Colored overlays: At times, a child will experience a mild problem reading black letters on a very white sheet of paper. It seems, to the child, that the white background of the paper is glowing and bright and distracting, making it difficult to see the black letters that compose the text.

One of the ways that you can informally determine if this is an issue is to obtain some plastic colored reading overlays (available at http://www.diannecraft.org/.)

Have the child read a paragraph or a few lines. Then place a blue colored transparency over the next paragraph and have him read. Then place a green overlay over the next paragraph when the child is reading orally. Listen for subtle changes in fluency. Ask him what he experienced while reading with the various colors. Many times the child will say that a particular transparency acted as a magnifying glass, making the letters bigger, and easier to see. There are other colors that you could try, but after working with children in this manner for 25 years, Dianne Craft says that blue and green seem to be the colors that help most often.

If the child does markedly better with one of the colored overlays, continue to use it to reduce the visual stress that he is experiencing. However, it will only act as a temporary aid until you correct the underlying problem, which is lack of eye convergence. The eyes can be trained to work together as a team while reading by doing various home exercises, or by working with a vision therapist using both home and office exercises.

In conclusion, remember that many (most) learning problems appear to be something that they are not, or appear to be caused by something that “seems” obvious, but really isn’t. Many (most) learning problems, are caused by situations that your child will usually not be able to describe to you, because he has no frame of reference other than his own, which may be skewed. It is very important that we take the time to utilize simple evaluations like those listed above. By doing so, we may be able to uncover a hidden skill deficiency that – when corrected – will make all the difference in the world to your young learner.

Also, don’t forget to pray and ask God for much wisdom as you set out to discover what, if anything, is standing in the way of your child’s academic success. He is able and willing to walk beside you as you equip your students to become all that He created them to be!

RESOURCES FOR CORRECTING VISION ACUITY/PROCESSING PROBLEMS:

  • Prescription eyeglasses
  • Vision therapy from a developmental optometrist
  • Brain integration therapy. (This program can be conducted at home.) For more information on this and other “Learning Gate” issues, visit” http://diannecraft.org/.

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LEARNING GATE #2: VISUAL/MOTOR PROCESSING – WRITING

The processing glitch that affects children the most is an interference in the writing system (spatial, visual/motor system). The process of writing has not been taken over by the child’s automatic brain, which is the right brain hemisphere. This causes the child to have to use much more energy to write. This can make a child look lazy, uncooperative, and unmotivated because writing is involved in so many learning activities. See if your child has many of the following symptoms of stress in the writing system:

  • Reversals in written numbers
  • Poor spacing in writing
  • Difficulty copying from book or board
  • Resistance to learning or writing cursive
  • Displaying awkward writing posture, with eye and hand very close together
  • No “helping hand” used when writing despite being instructed to do so
  • Failure to complete written assignments despite performing well on tests
  • Spaces math papers poorly
  • Tells great stories orally, but writes very little
  • Leaves out letters in a spelling test, but could spell the word orally correct
  • Wants to do all math “in his head,” no matter how long the problem is

INFORMAL EVALUATION:

Check your child’s eye/hand dominance: Tear a hole in a piece of paper that is the size of a dime. Have the child stand five feet in front of you and hold the paper with arms extended, in front of him. Ask him to look through the hole and find your nose. As he is looking at your nose through the hole in the paper, you will be able to see his dominant eye.

Now to see if he is using that same eye for close-up work, place a small, round object on the floor about five inches in front of the child’s feet. A toy construction cone is good. Ask the child to hold the paper at arm’s length and look through the hole at the object on the floor. Tell the child to “freeze” his hands when he has sees the object. Then get behind him and cover one of the child’s eyes with your hand. Ask the child if he can still see the object, or if it disappeared. Do the same with the other eye, making sure that the child does not move his paper. The object should disappear when you are covering the child’s dominant eye.

We always use only one eye when looking through a small hole – our dominant eye. If the child found that the object disappeared when you covered his right eye, then he is right-eye dominant. If he is also right-handed, then we call that “uniform dominance.” The brain finds it more efficient to be uniform dominant.

If the object disappeared when you covered the child’s left eye, then he is left-eye dominant. If the child is also right-handed, then he is considered “mixed dominance.”

Being mixed dominant can be very helpful in sports, such as baseball and golf, but is less efficient for writing. However, if a child has good brain hemispheric integration, then it is not very bothersome for him. If the two hemispheres of his brain are not communicating well for the act of writing, then the writing has not transferred into the automatic hemisphere, and the writing process can be very laborious.

Make a note of whether the child is uniform or mixed dominant. This gives you a clue as to one reason why your child has been struggling with writing. Many times these mixed-dominant children do not develop a hand dominance until they are 4 or 5 years old, as opposed to other children who develop a hand dominance earlier.

Clockwise or counterclockwise circles? Have child write a word with the letter “o” in it, or just write the letter “o.” Watch to see if he writes this clockwise or counterclockwise. If a child is hard-wired to be right-handed, he should be making all letters counterclockwise. If a child is hard-wired to be left-handed, he will tend to make his letters clockwise.

We only are concerned when a child who has chosen his right hand to write with, but is making all letters clockwise like a left-hander. This creates great stress in the child’s writing system. Make a note of this, because there are specific exercises that can be done to take the stress out of this system. We do not have to change a child’s handedness.

Bottom-to-top letter formation: Ask your child to write the alphabet in lower-case print. There is a natural flow of electricity in our body that God put there. When we make our letters according to that flow, writing is effortless. When we write letters against the flow, writing is laborious. Observe, but don’t correct. See if the child makes letter bottom-to-top, which is considered a vertical reversal. See if the child finds it difficult to remember the next letter to write. See if the child writes a mixture of lower-case and upper-case letters. Watch for clockwise letters, and letters that do not go below the line. These are all signs of stress in the child’s visual/motor/spatial system. Make notes. These problems can be corrected, and the stress taken out of the system.

RESOURCES FOR CORRECTING WRITING DYSFUNCTION:

  • When teaching, have the child answer as many questions orally, reducing the need to write until you can take the stress out of the writing system
  • Eliminate copying tasks because of the labor involved until the child’s writing improves
  • Do timed math tests orally, if possible
  • Do the Writing Eight Exercise designed by Dr. Getman, to encourage the child’s kinesthetic midline to function well, eliminating both lateral and vertical reversals. This daily exercise, when done in a deliberate, monitored manner, will convert the writing process to the automatic hemisphere. The exercise is described in the manual Brain Integration Therapy for Children by Dianne Craft.
  • After the child has a strong midline, then you can use the writing program Handwriting Without Tears
  • Teach your child keyboarding to encourage computer use for longer papers
  • LinguiSystems has several books that talk about writing issues, such as the dysgraphia described in the characteristics section
  • Smart Kids Who Hate to Write” by Dianne Craft

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LEARNING GATE #3: AUDITORY PROCESSING

Your child may be struggling with auditory processing dysfunction if he or she exhibits the following difficulties:

Difficulty remembering sight words, including:

  • Trouble retrieving names of letters, words, people, and things
  • Laboring over verbal expression.

Difficulty with phonics, including:

  • Trouble remembering sounds of letter combinations such as “au,” “oi”
  • Difficulty applying phonics rules in a reading setting
  • Sounding out the same word over and over in the same reading passage

Spelling difficulties, including:

  • Trouble spelling phonetically (the child may spell “team” as “tie” or “went” as “wat”)
  • Spelling the same word differently each time

Difficulty sequencing sounds, including:

  • Trouble learning and retaining days of the week and months
  • The child guesses at words because reading longer words is very hard
  • The child puts extra sounds in a word (ie., contribution becomes contribu’ta’tion), “band” becomes “brand”

Difficulty saying longer words:

  • Transposing letters: “animal” is “aminal;” “magazine” is “mazagine;” “suddenly” is “sundenly”
  • Avoiding difficult words when speaking

The child’s silent voice disappears:

  • He or she subvocalizes when reading silently, or needs to read aloud to understand a passage
  • He or she needs to repeat the alphabet in his head when writing it out

Difficulty with speech, including:

  • Trouble articulating many sounds
  • Exhibiting language delay

Difficulty understanding verbal instruction:

  • He or she needs to ask for directions to be repeated frequently
  • He or she says “what” a lot
  • An apparent hearing problem can mimic a focusing and attention issue. The key is determining whether the child really is not hearing and storing the information auditorally, or if the child is not focusing on what is being said.
  • He or she is easily confused or is never quite sure he understood the speaker

INFORMAL EVALUATION:

An auditory processing dysfunction can manifest itself in so many different ways. Many adults and children have mild auditory processing problems, but find ways to compensate for it in their daily lives. It is a bigger struggle for a child to learn with an auditory processing issue, than with just a visual processing issue, or a visual/motor (writing) processing issue. The left auditory brain hemisphere is responsible for retaining sounds, words, and auditory information. When this process is experiencing a block, the child doesn’t know why he can’t remember what was just taught, nor does the parent.Storing and retrieving information: Ask the child to write the alphabet. Observe carefully to see whether the child hesitates after writing several letters, then begins again. Watch for this hesitation throughout the writing of the alphabet.

If the child hesitates in writing a letter that follows a letter that has a directional component to it, such as “b,” “d,” “p,” “q,” “j,” “g,” then it could be that he has a spatial problem, and had to think about what direction the letter should be written. However, if the child hesitates after writing “e,” or “h,” then you can suspect that he has lost his silent voice…his “thinking” voice, and is having to go back and say the alphabet over and over in his head. With older children, you can ask if they had to say the alphabet over several times in their head while doing the alphabet, and they can tell you exactly where they felt they had to stop and repeat. The efficient storage and retrieval of 26 units is one sign of an auditory processing dysfunction.

Sequencing: Ask the child to say the days of the week, and then the months of the year. The months represent sequencing and ordering unrelated sounds. If this is difficult for the child despite being taught it before, or if the child leaves out some months (they often leave out either October or August, because they start with the same sound), assure him that many children do.

However, these difficulties could indicate that the auditory channel of sequencing is not working as well as it should, and causing your child to struggle with learning. If a child is laboring with auditory sequencing, then the popular way of teaching multiplication tables through skip counting will be more difficult for that child. That child would greatly benefit from using right brain teaching strategies, using the child’s photographic memory to memorize multiplication facts easily.

Word retrieval: The two brain hemispheres have individual responsibilities. When we understand these responsibilities we can see understand where a child’s processing is breaking down in the reading process.

The right brain stores pictures. This means that all of the sight words (words that cannot be sounded out, such as “the,” “many,” etc.) are stored in the right brain after the child has been exposed to these words for several days. The name of the word is stored in the child’s left auditory hemisphere. Normally, when the two hemispheres are working well together, when the child sees the word (a right brain function), the name comes up quickly (a left brain function), and the child remembers the sight word.

To check the efficiency of this process, have your child read a list of words at his grade level. If your child consistently hesitates at words such as “would, what, know, and neighbor,” or if he attempts to sound out every word, then make a note of that. If the child is not reading yet, you can have him read, or attempt to name the alphabet letters that you have taught him. If this is very difficult, then we can assume that this is a child who is struggling with the word retrieval portion of an auditory processing dysfunction. There are wonderful methods to help this child.

Hearing individual letters: This is the auditory channel that is involved in learning and remembering the sounds that letters and letter combinations get. We teach this in great detail in phonics. Have your child read a list of words that are on the child’s reading level (if you don’t have a list, you can obtain one from HSLDA Learning Specialist Department, if you are a member). If your child cannot sound out a word, for example, cannot remember the “f” sound to begin a word, or laboriously sounds out “f-a-t,” and then says “fan,” you know you have a child suffering in this area. If your child is older, and guesses at longer words, because he cannot remember the phonemes (vowel and letter combinations) to sound it out easily, then that child is suffering also in this area. Many times these are children who played the Phonics Game well, and knew all the “pieces” (left brain function), but cannot put it into a “whole” (right brain function), when reading a passage. Make a note of your results.

RESOURCES FOR CORRECTION:

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LEARNING GATE #4: FOCUS/ATTENTION PROCESSING

When a child is having to use too much energy to keep his mind on his work, then that is the area that is a learning block to him. This child often has a body chemistry that is upset, and can be changed with simple methods at home. At times a parent finds that working with a professional in this area is most helpful.

Often a parent will say of such a child: “He can focus on movies, video games, or Legos for hours, but can’t focus on his schoolwork for more than five minutes.” It is important to realize what is going on, so we don’t become frustrated with this type of child. Movies, video games, or Legos require little energy because children find them interesting and undemanding. On the other hand, a history or math lesson requires much more effort on the child’s part. If the child has an “energy leak” in a certain area, then he will have to work much harder to remain focused. Therefore it is important to determine whether a child is struggling with an academic task because of an actual learning block, which causes task avoidance (because of its difficulty), or a focusing problem.

Many times these children are struggling with sensory integration issues that make them look unfocused.

We’ll look at the characteristics of a child struggling with a focus issue, and a child struggling with sensory integration issues separately, even though they often overlap.

The official terms that are often used for children who have difficulty remaining focused on a task that they are capable of doing are Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).

ADD refers to a child who is not acting out or moving around, and can even look attentive during a task, but is generally absorbed in his own thoughts and daydreams to the point that he gets little done in the amount of time allotted.

A child who is thought to be ADHD is generally hyperactive. This child has a motor that is always running that he seems incapable of controlling. He does everything in a hurry, and some part of his body always appears to be moving, which keeps him quite distracted.

The hyperactive child (not just hyper-fidgety) is usually easy to spot in a group. The inattentive child, on the other hand, is not easy to spot. This child just appears to be slow in finishing work, or in following directions. He or she may seem lazy or uncooperative.

In a homeschool setting we do not have to focus on labels, or official diagnoses most of the time. We just need to discover if the child we are working with exhibits enough symptoms to warrant further exploration on this topic. In homeschooling we can focus on the solution, rather than a label.

Since learning is all about energy output, we should ask ourselves why a child has to expend more energy to remain focused on a task than his or her siblings. Once this question is answered, then the action becomes clear.

ADD Checklist

  • Distractibility
  • No persistence with a task
  • Inconsistency in performance from one day to another
  • Excessive daydreaming during a school related task
  • Needs to have mom next to him or her in order to finish work
  • Forgetfulness (of previously learned material, daily plans, etc.)

ADHD Checklist

A child struggling with the more active form of a focusing issue will display some of these characteristics:

  • Excess motor activity (something is always moving)
  • Impulsiveness (acts without thinking much of the time)
  • Insatiability (never satisfied with an activity)
  • Poor response to discipline
  • Moodiness
  • Sleep disturbances (very restless sleeper)
INFORMAL EVALUATION:

The difficulty with determining if your child has a focusing issue is that parents often do not have a strong basis of comparison if they only have one other child at home who is homeschooling. Thus, it is important to solicit information and observations from the other adults in the child’s life who works with him in both an academic and non-academic setting.

Remember, that to be a real focusing issue, the symptoms must present themselves in more than one setting. It is important to differentiate between a child whose main problem is focusing, from a child who is exhibiting task avoidance because of academic struggles. For example, if your child’s Sunday School teacher says that he or she listens attentively to lessons, and participates lively in the discussions that follow, but “gets silly” or doesn’t complete assigned worksheets, you can consider that this child has a learning glitch instead of a focusing problem. The child with difficulty focusing frequently does not attend to orally presented information enough to participate well in the ensuing discussion.

On the other hand, if your child’s karate teacher says that he needs to continually redirect your child’s attention during lessons (those that are very active and hands-on), you might consider that this child is struggling to maintain focus when his peers do not need to expend any energy for this task.

How You Can Determine if Your Child Has a Focusing Issue:

  • Checklists, such as the one above help identify a child with an issue.
  • Pediatricians can help decipher the observations you have of your child.
  • Conners Behavior Scale, or BASC can be obtained by your physician. These are informal questionnaires to be completed by parents and other adults who work with your child in an academic setting. The results are calibrated to determine if the child is merely at risk of an attention problem, or actually is showing attention problem symptoms in more than one setting.
  • Sunday School teachers, co-op teachers leaders, and other adults who work with your children can help determine if he or she is experiencing a problem.

RESOURCES FOR CORRECTION:

There are two ways that children who have to expend more energy than their peers to focus can be helped. One way is to use compensation, and the other is to employ correction of the problem.

Since it takes time for any correctional program to work, we really need to do both procedures. We compensate for the problem, while designing and implementing an effective correctional program.

In determining the best way to correct a child’s processing problem that is affecting his ability to focus on a task, we need to consider that this child likely has an upset chemistry. The basis for this assumption is the long history of the use of medication used with children with a focusing issue. These medications are designed to help the child focus with more ease, by making the neurotransmitters responsible for the process of focusing, more available to the brain and nervous system.

If a parent decides to try some medication for this purpose, then the child’s pediatrician is the place to start. Sometimes parents try various medications, only to find the side effects to be unacceptable. So it’s a good idea to also consider alternative ways to help balance the child’s upset body chemistry.

Other times the parents are not interested in pursuing medication at all, but realize that their child is struggling too hard to focus, so still needs some help in producing and releasing the necessary neurotransmitters. This is when parents often turn to a nutritionist, naturopath, chiropractor, or nutritionally oriented physician to explore alternatives that seem to help so many children.

We will explore both compensations and corrections for these struggling children.

In homeschooling we have a unique opportunity to help the child learn how to control his own behavior, through gentle behavior modification. We also have the opportunity to give this child more time and attention, taking the burden off of his focusing system.

We can plan school days that help this child gain as much information as possible from the material, without the frustration of always being behind, or not knowing what to do. It is very rewarding to work with these learners in the home setting.

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COMPENSATIONS:

Employ one-on-one tutoring. Children with attention problems thrive when an adult works one-on-one with them. These children struggle to complete work on their own, and find the frequent reminders to hurry up and complete their work debilitating. (See “Managing the Homeschool Teaching Day with a Struggling Learner” in the section following, to learn how to get this important time with your child, while still working with your other children).

Choose a curriculum that does not require mainly independent work (such as a computer curriculum program, or a self-paced program. These types of programs can be a HUGE stress producer for a focus challenged student!)

Reduce workbook exercises and busy work, such as copying and repeating math problems, as much as possible.

Buy good quality earphones for this child. He could use them to block out distracting noise, or you could have him listen to classical music softly while working on assignments.

Keep this child close to you throughout the day. Your proximity makes a big difference in his ability to focus. You do not always have to interact with him. Just be near him. Even when you are teaching another child, this child can be next to you with his earphones on, completing his work.

Group assignments. When approaching a math page with many problems on it, put a star by those you want him to do in that sitting period. If you are only having him do some of the problems on the page, not all, then he can put a large “X” over the ones he doesn’t have to do. This is very satisfying for the child. If you can’t do that, then use construction paper to cover the problems on the bottom half of the page so he doesn’t have to see them when he is working on the top half. (Sometimes this adjustment, alone, can make a very big difference in the attitude at the beginning of an assignment.)

Focus on study skills. If your child is prone to make mistakes when doing math problems, have him mark all the similar problems with red, and do them first. These children don’t transition well, because transitions require more focusing power. Doing all like problems together greatly decreases their need to focus, ensuring few errors on a page. (Another simple, yet extremely effective idea.)

Take breaks. Many little breaks, versus one big break, helps these children stay on task. (If you’re teaching young boys, this is a biggie!)

Involve dad. Assign one subject for dad to do with the child in the evening when he is home. Dads often have a different approach to teaching, and the child gets the important one-on-one time that helps him be successful. Make sure that dad knows the chunking approach, and how to reduce mundane, repetitive tasks.

Use more right brain strategies, since these employ color, humor, weirdness, etc., to put “Velcro” on the information presented. These children may not necessarily be right brain learners, but the engaging aspects of right brain strategies keep them interested, and uses less focusing energy. For example, when explaining a new concept or showing how to memorize material, make it fun by having your child help you draw sketches with colored markers.

Adjust your expectations. Your other children may complete tasks without constant reminders, or may actually be able to perform chores without your intervention. If your special needs child could do that, he gladly would. He wants to please also, but does not have the physical ability to bring this about. He is as disappointed in himself as you are. If you have asked him to do three things, and he completed just one, and comes to you, think about saying, “Let’s do the other two tasks together.” This takes such pressure off the child, and models how to get several tasks done in a row, without the feeling of failure.

If your child had a disabled arm or leg, it would be so much easier to adjust your expectations without feeling that you weren’t teaching him how to be responsible. This child has as real a disability, but because it is not visible it can so easily be seen as sloppiness, irresponsibility, or laziness. God will help you find the right way to work with your child.

CORRECTIONS:

Medications: Even though most homeschooling parents are not interested in the use of medications to help their child focus, the discussion is included here, since there may be times when it is necessary, even if it is only for a short period of time.

  • Serotonin boosting medications:
    • Ritalin (short release time)
    • Concerta (sustained release time)
    • Antidepressants (Zoloft, Prozac, Effexor, Wellbutrin, etc.)
  • Stimulants:
    • Adderall (amphetamines)
  • Dopamine boosting medication:
    • Strattera

All medications come with the risk of side effects, of course. Parents must weigh the potential benefits against the potential risks before deciding whether or not to use medications.

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DIET:

It has been known for over 20 years (starting with Dr. Feingold and his famous Feingold Diet) that by reducing sugars, colorings, and preservatives, children with attention disorders have a much easier time focusing. (I have personally had incredible success here.)

Many parents report that when they change the diet of all children at home, that they see a tremendous difference in learning ability and behavior. Some of the diet recommendations that seem to be the most effective include:

Reduce sugar intake. It’s the hidden sugars that get us in trouble, such as the sweeteners in fruit juice, boxed cereals, granola bars, fruit rollups, soft drinks, chocolate milk, pancakes, waffles, etc. Remember that a Snickers candy bar has about 30 grams of carbohydrates, and 35 grams of sugar. When you add the two together, you get 65 grams. Without realizing it, we often feed our children this same amount of sugar by just giving them juice and a bowl of cereal. For many children, consuming this much sugar contributes to their difficulty focusing and controlling their moods.

Increase raw fruit and vegetable intake. As we know from the research in books such as Children with Starving Brains by Dr. Chandless, many children are low in essential vitamins, minerals and fatty acids. These children either are not getting the daily nutrients they need for their brain to function well, or they are eating the correct foods, but are not absorbing the nutrients found in the food.

The enzymes contained in raw foods greatly assist the digestive system in absorbing nutrients. This can make a huge difference with some children. To make this difference, parents always had grapes, apples, bananas, watermelon, cantaloupe, and other fruit around to eat, and made sure the children had three servings a day. These parents also kept a plate of raw vegetables such as carrots, celery, broccoli, cauliflower, and green pepper strips along with plenty of ranch dressing around for lunch.

Use less processed food. As the pioneering Dr. Feingold, and many of the researchers following him, found when food is boxed, it is filled with preservatives. Those preservatives can be very toxic to a child’s nervous system. Processed food also has no life in it. The rule of thumb for brain-healthy eating is to shop as much as you can in the periphery of the grocery store, where the plugs are in the walls. Buying food that is refrigerated in the store ensures you that the life-giving nutrients are still in there. When it is canned or boxed, the live nutrients, such as the fats that are good for the brain have been removed so that they do not turn rancid on the shelf. Of course, there are some good brain fats that are not refrigerated…such as cans of tuna or salmon and mayonnaise.

Increase water intake. Children are often tired because they are dehydrated. They do not drink enough water during the day. A great book that details all the symptoms of being low in water intake is Your Body’s Many Cries for Water by Dr. Batmangahlidj. He recommends that children drink half their weight in ounces of water. Making adequate water intake during the day a family priority is very helpful for many families. Water helps eliminate histamine and other toxins from the body.

SUMMARY:

There are many things to consider as we teach our children and discover any struggles they may be experiencing. We must keep in mind the “big picture” as we teach. It is so easy to get caught up in being disappointed that some of our learners will struggle and that these struggles will cost us time, and effort, and work and usually, patience beyond our ability on most days. Remind yourself that God Himself has placed this child in YOUR care. He has done so because no one else is as uniquely equipped to parent him/her and educate him/her as you. No one else.

As you consider the suggestions in this article, I encourage you to bring each one before the Father. Though these things are a mystery to us, something to be figured out like a puzzle, they are no mystery to Him. He knows. He knows the exact path that your sweet student needs to take in order “unlock” his/her ability to learn and flourish in all things. And, He is so very willing to share the details with you. The One who created our sons and daughters has enormous plans for their future and we are privileged to be a part of bringing that to pass.

darnelleDarnelle is a wife and a mother to 5 children: 4 homeschoolers currently in 3rd, 7th, 9th, and 11th grades and one college sophomore. All 5 children have been home schooled from preschool. She has experience teaching in public, private, parochial and special schools but her favorite . . . is home school! Her certification is in the areas of special education and remediation. Her writing aims at assisting parents in finding and then correcting trouble spots that often cause academic problems and struggles. Children – and their parents – who are free from the burden of academic struggles, can begin to love learning again, just like God intended! Visit her blog, All Things Work Together.

The Missing Ingredient

My first two children spoiled me rotten. Their happy attitudes toward our home school adventure fed my home-school-mom pride. They gobbled up nearly everything I placed on their educational plates. I thought that whatever I decided to do would work the same way for all of my children. That is, until my third child turned five years old and joined our little school. Little did I know, I would be the one doing a lot of the learning.

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Sweet Noah didn’t like to sit at the school table. He didn’t like to practice writing nor did he care about showing me his best work. He didn’t really care for coloring, either. He was more interested in numbers, snack time, and playing outside. Instead of learning to read, he preferred to have me read to him. It’s not that he couldn’t learn to read; it’s that he didn’t want to learn to read as long as I was nearby. “But you do it better!” he declared.

So, I didn’t push it. “He’s only five,” I told myself. “Lots of boys are slower to read. This is normal.” We continued with the other subjects and I didn’t push phonics so much. Thus ended his kindergarten year.

The next year he was six years old — a first grader. I promised myself that this year would be the year. I even exchanged my rigorous phonics curriculum for something more “fun” and “interactive” just for him. Again, Noah bucked my system. It wasn’t just a five-year-old boy thing — he really didn’t want to learn to read. This came as quite a shock to me. We pressed on with the curriculum, but Noah hated it. And at the end of the year, I still didn’t have the reader I had hoped for.

We are now three months into his second grade year. He’s seven years old. And now I have a reader.

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At the beginning of August, I couldn’t help but feel like I needed “do-over” with Noah. I had so many fears about this new school year: Should I go back to my original curriculum plan? Does he have a learning disability? Have I failed him? No matter what, I simply decided to make the best of the situation.

I decided that when it came to teaching Noah how to read, I would,

1. Relax,
2. Reassure and encourage,
3. Review, and
4. Reinforce.

I would soon find out that I was missing one key ingredient.

I continued teaching and reviewing all of the phonics he already understood. I added some fun activities and workbooks to reinforce. And I doled out lots of encouragement. Part of my encouragement included little readers that I thought would be easy enough for Noah to read on his own, thus making it more fun for him. How wrong I was! He hated those little books. I thought I was doing him a favor by not giving him books that were too difficult for him to read. After all, I didn’t want to discourage him. But my encouragement had the opposite effect. He was more discouraged by those little books because they weren’t “real” to him. A child like Noah, who has been listening to real books since the time he was born, can tell a fake story from a real story before you can say, “Jan ate jam.”

Not only was I doing the opposite of what I intended, we were suffering from a communication breakdown.

He said, “I don’t want to read.” And I heard, “I don’t like to read.”

I said, “Try reading this.” And he heard, “You’re not ready to read a real book.”

I thought he refused to read because he hated reading. He thought I was just trying to make him miserable. But the reality was that I was giving him books to read that he had no interest in reading. He wasn’t concerned with whether or not they were on his level. He wanted to read something like the books that he saw his brother and sisters stealing away to read, using flashlights to read just one more chapter after lights out.

One afternoon, after giving up again, I said, “OK, Noah, pick out what you want to read.”

He went over to the book shelf and picked out a short chapter book. Now, keep in mind, I had not heard him read more than very simple sentences. I wanted to protect him. I wanted to keep him from feeling discouraged. I wanted to build his confidence and help him work his way up to a short chapter book. Noah, on the other hand, wanted to jump right in.

We sat down on the couch together and Noah began to read slowly. With a little help from me, he made it through the first chapter. We were both so happy for him!! He wanted to read to his daddy as soon as he walked in the door from work. It’s been a couple of weeks now and he’s moved on to his second short chapter book. Praise the Lord, he’s catching up to his grade level!

While it was important for me to relax, to keep teaching and reviewing the reading foundations, and to encourage Noah, it was even more important for me to find out a little more about his learning style and to discover his interests in order to fuel his desire to read.

Leslie makes her home (and school) in the beautiful Alabama. She and her husband of 12 years have four children whose God-given curiosity keeps them on their toes. Leslie prefers books and quiet contemplation, but she’s been caught jogging, gardening, and talking for hours with her girl friends over cups of coffee. You can also find her at her blogs, Lux Venit and Lux Venit Home School.

Make memorization painless

Mnemonic devices are super glue for the mind

The lines and spaces were stretched out before me like an endless trek. Dots on or between those lines were supposed to translate to music? Impossible.

But then I discovered that Every Good Boy Does Fine (and Every Good Bird Does Fly) and All Cows Eat Grass (and unfortunately, All Cars Eat Gas) and we all have a FACE. Suddenly, music – at least the reading of it – was easy.

Mnemonic devices, handy ways to remember a list, have all new appeal to me as a homeschool teacher. Once learned, I know they will stick with my son forever, long after he has left our little classroom. I can guarantee he will be the dad helping his child with the classification of living things by announcing that King Phillip Came Over For Good Spaghetti 1.

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Mentioning this rediscovered technique recently I found that it is used from beginning piano students to college kids taught by a friend. At my mention of King Phillip, he countered with “Help Five Police To Find Ten Missing Prisoners 2” and “Happy Henry Lithely Began Baking Cakes, Not Omitting Four Necessities 3.”

Though I want my son to have a deep understanding of what we study, along with the ability to apply it in real life, sometimes you just have to memorize a list. Mnemonic devices make it painless. Search online for mnemonics for just about everything you could possibly have to memorize in school – or work with your child to make your own.

In the meantime, while I gaze upon Roy G. Biv 4, Please Excuse My Dear Aunt Sally 5.

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1. Taxonomic order: Kingdom Phylum Class Order Family Genus Species
2. The bones of the lower limb: Hip, Femur, Patella, Tibia, Fibula, Tarsals, Metatarsals, Phalanges
3. Elements 1 – 10 of the Periodic Table: Hydrogen, Helium, Lithium, Beryllium, Boron, Carbon, Nitrogen, Oxygen, Flourine, Neon
4. The colors of the rainbow: Red, Orange, Yellow, Green, Blue, Indigo, Violet
5. Order of Operations: Parentheses, Exponents, Multiplication, Division, Addition, Subtraction

Chris Worthy is mom to Caroline (15) and Nolan (10) and will soon celebrate 20 years of marriage to her favorite person, John. Chris practiced law before becoming a writer and stay-at-home mother more than 10 years ago. She enjoys cooking, crafting, spoiling dogs, green living and rummaging though old books. Follow along at www.chrisworthy.com

Learning Styles

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For as long as I live, I will never cease to be amazed at how so many different looking children can come from the same two parents.

My husband and I have five children – five very distinctly different looking children. The oldest is very Italian looking, like his father. He has very straight black hair, very dark eyes and dark features. Son #2 two has brown hair, (that was blond-almost white- for years, then got darker) and is extremely curly (ringlets kind of curly). He has light brown eyes, medium skin and features and wears glasses. The third child is a girl with black hair like brother #1, but it’s curly like brother #2. She also has dark skin and eyes and wears glasses. Child #4 is female and has the same features as #2 son, except that her hair is wavy, not curly and was never blond. Baby girl, #5, has straight dark brown hair, light features, freckles and green eyes.

It’s like God was pulling traits from a hat. I just think it’s funny.

And, if those aren’t enough differences, each one possesses a unique personality and a totally different learning style from his/her siblings.

(A girl’s gotta have a mean bag of tricks to teach in that kind of home school.)

The phrase ‘learning style’ is used often these days and is simply a catch-all way to express the fact that each child has unique methods by which they are able to absorb and process and remember information.

You’ve probably noticed that while one child seems to love performing his work in workbooks regularly, another child would rather pull his own teeth than sit for even 5 minutes working in a daily workbook. Some children love to employ constant help and intervention while others prefer to work completely independently. Some children memorize things more easily with constant review, while others require every kind of song and dance imaginable to get things to “stick” in their memories.

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When I first began home schooling, I purchased a pricey phonics curriculum that required a significant amount of memory work. Son #1 sailed through it with ease and utter enjoyment. (Enjoyment. I said it.) Son #2 wanted to run away from home every time I tried to use that same curriculum with him. It drove him batty (and hence, he drove ME batty.) Lesson learned.

This is the point at which a wise parent/teacher concedes that it might be a good time to investigate the differences in learning styles – and make adjustments.

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A great first step in that direction is to discover whether your child is, what is often referred to as a ‘right brain’ or ‘left brain’ thinker. Scientists tell us that different parts of our brains are responsible for our abilities to do different things. While the left side of the brain seems to be responsible for our ability to function in all things logical, sequential and rational – the right side allows us to think randomly, intuitively and subjectively.

Most people generally exhibit characteristics that seem to suggest that they use one side of the brain more masterfully (or at least more often) than the other. Since most curriculum is geared toward a more left brain learner (focusing on auditory and sequential aspects, as well as a lot of writing) children who are considered right brain learners often struggle to keep pace though they may be quite intelligent. It makes sense to find out which kind of learner/thinker – left brain or right brain – your child might be. Most people are a combination of the two, though they tend to lean a little more in one direction than the other.

For younger students, consider the following tendencies:

LEFT BRAIN LEARNERS

  1. Tends to seek structure in the school day
  2. Memorizes best by repetition (auditory or writing)
  3. Likes to know the plan for each day, week, etc.
  4. Tends to work well independently
  5. Likes to make lists, and check them off as tasks are completed
  6. Thinks things through with multiple pieces of evidence before coming to a conclusion
  7. Tends to find math interesting and is very good at it.
  8. Likes the predictability and conciseness of workbooks
  9. Can work well within a self-paced computer curriculum

RIGHT BRAIN LEARNERS

  1. Likes spontaneous events, versus planned events
  2. Memorizes best by using meaning, color, pictures, story and emotion
  3. Does not plan ahead regularly
  4. Prefers much involvement with parent while doing daily lessons
  5. Does not work on items sequentially, but skips around in his/her work
  6. Makes quantum leaps when learning – figures things out with little evidence
  7. Finds math quite repetitive and somewhat boring
  8. Prefers projects and discussions rather than book work
  9. Does not do well with self-paced or computer curriculum

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For older students, consider the following traits:

LEFT BRAIN CHARACTERISTICS

  1. Verbal
  2. Responds to word meaning
  3. Sequential
  4. Processes information linearly
  5. Responds to logic
  6. Plans ahead
  7. Recalls people’s names
  8. 8. Speaks with few gestures
  9. Punctual
  10. Prefers formal study design
  11. Prefers bright lights while studying

RIGHT BRAIN CHARACTERISTICS

  1. Visual
  2. Responds to tone of voice
  3. Random
  4. Processes information in varied order
  5. Responds to emotion
  6. Impulsive
  7. Recalls people’s faces
  8. Gestures when speaking
  9. Less punctual
  10. Prefers sound/music background while studying
  11. Prefers frequent mobility while studying

As I mentioned, most curriculum tend to teach to left brain learners. If your child (especially in early elementary grades) shows signs of difficulty with memory skills, focusing and attention OR if he/she has a genuine dislike for “traditional” desk work very early on in the game, OR if the situation has reached a point where your spouse is hearing rumors of an impending mother/child smack down during school hours – then you may want to look into some right brain teaching strategies.

The beauty of right brain methods is that both right brain and left brain learners seem to love the techniques and they are very effective for both groups. Here are a few suggestions listed by subject.

SPELLING
- Train child’s photographic memory capability
- Teach the word retrieval technique that spelling bee winners use
- Avoid using writing as main means of learning spelling words
- Use colors and pictures and humor on the letter or letters in a word

VOCABULARY
- Have students draw cartoons to aid in memorizing vocabulary words
- Make a drawing of the meaning of the word
- Use pre-made vocabulary cartoons by homeschool dad Sam Burchers

MATH
- Teach the problem and answer as a whole rather than in parts
- Use stories, emotion and pictures
- Make visual charts of math processes whenever possible and keep them displayed

PHONICS
- Use color and pictures to make phonics memorable at every opportunity
- Train the brain to store the sound and picture as a unit
- Employ music and/or singing to teach sounds

READING COMPREHENSION
- Train students to change words into pictures when listening and reading
- Teach them how to make a movie in their head as they read to increase comprehension/memory
- Add specific/recognizable music to reading time

WRITING
- Model how to see their whole paper or paragraph before they write it
- Show them how to write only one or two words to remind them of the whole thought
- Don’t correct spelling errors on the paper. Instead, put misspelled words into the next spelling lesson

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For space reasons, I have only briefly listed a few suggestions for helping your right brain thinkers with their work. The following is a list of online resources that are packed with detailed information to guide you in creating an atmosphere where your little right brainers (as well as left brainers) will be able to function and excel.

RESOURCES:

- http://www.web-us.com/brain/braindominance.htm
- Teaching Your Right Brain Child – video by Dianne Craft
- Right Brain Children in a Left Brain World – by Jeffrey Freed
- VocabularyCartoons.com
- http://diannecraft.org/
- Right Brain Math – by Dianne Craft
- Lindamood Phonemic Awareness Program
- Dyslexia: How do I Teach this Child” – by Dianne Craft
- Use Both Sides of the Brain – by Tony Buzan
- http://www.tapestryofgrace.com/

Last thoughts. It is important to remember that struggling learners usually do not learn independently, but need much teacher involvement to be successful. And, don’t forget to pray for the ability to be able to employ some of these techniques regularly and the wisdom to discern exactly where your child’s greatest needs are. God is aware of every detail. Just ask Him!

darnelleDarnelle is a wife and a mother to 5 children: 4 homeschoolers currently in 3rd, 7th, 9th, and 11th grades and one college sophomore. All 5 children have been home schooled from preschool. She has experience teaching in public, private, parochial and special schools but her favorite . . . is home school! Her certification is in the areas of special education and remediation. Her writing aims at assisting parents in finding and then correcting trouble spots that often cause academic problems and struggles. Children – and their parents – who are free from the burden of academic struggles, can begin to love learning again, just like God intended! Visit her blog, All Things Work Together.

If I Was Starting Over Again

I had the chance to talk with a friend across the country who is pulling her son out of school and beginning their homeschooling journey today. She had so many questions — questions I was asking my veteran homeschooling friends 8 or 9 years ago.

It made me think about what I would do differently if I were beginning again.

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1. I would read up on learning styles a bit more. Back then I think I went to a single workshop that gave me an overview of learning styles. It was in that workshop that I realized my visual, kinesthetic, explosive learner was going to shrivel up and die if I bought that workbook-based curriculum I had saved up for. I’m grateful for that workshop, but now I would go back and learn a little more.

2. I would guide our methods with broader brush strokes. The details tended to be the triggers that pushed my son and I into power struggles. We had enough hurdles in front of us in the beginning. I’m sure I added a few more just because of my, “I’m the teacher, that’s why.” attitude. If the overall concept was addressed, the method should have been more flexible.

3. I would totally and utterly trust all those friends who said, “Forget about testing.” For me, academics can easily take precedence over building a trusting relationship with my son. I would go back and evaluate each concept with a new perspective: what will most effectively reach his heart and mind today? Now, I know that if he trusts me then he will more easily move toward greater academic excellence.

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4. I would begin with the child. I was fairly focused on finding the right curriculum (which is, of course, important). I wasn’t so much concerned with setting up “school at home” but I was concerned that our days would be content-rich. I’ve learned since then to let my children give real input into the direction our studies take us. I see now that their ownership over their own education is like gold.

Naturally, there are some things that I’m glad I did from the beginning – letting my son move, providing lessons in short “bites,” taking writing out of everything but writing, letting him choose what activity we would do next, and waiting for him to indicate an interest in an area (like learning cursive) before I saddled him with it. But we live and we learn. And I fully expect that I’ll look back on this, my son’s sixth grade year, and think “I should have done that differently.” It’s all part of the (my) learning process.

Debra Anderson has been married to her true companion for 15 years and has three sons under age 10. Debra’s passions are education, art, her husband, church ministry and missional living — not in that order. She has served as her co-op’s coordinator in Portland, Oregon and is a new resident of the Denver metro area. Debra has her seminary Masters degree in Christian Education and has always home educated their boys — even on the hard days. She maintains a blog at Emergent Homeschool.

Homeschool Perk #6

I have been writing a on a continuing theme here the last few months, with the emphasis being on the many perks of homeschooling. Before I get to the next Perk of the Month, let me re-cap for those who may not have been following along. Feel free to view any of the previous perks listed here in my top ten format:

#10 Take Off Season Family Vacations

#9 Develop A Love of Learning

#8 Teach to Develop Your Child’s Interests

#7 The Great Outdoors as Your Classroom

and for this month: #6 You Can Develop Your Own Learning Plan

As many of us know, homeschooling in our province (British Columbia, Canada) allows us the choice of registering or enrolling our children. For more information about registering or enrolling click here. Both options allow quite a variety of flexibility, but which ever you choose it can be very beneficial to create your own learning plan. Creating or customizing your own learning plan can create infinite possibilities of topics to study, and the order you choose to study them. Customizing can allow you to say, teach history chronologically, spend a year on one science topic if the interest is there, and choose curriculum to better fit your child’s learning style and academic abilities – just to name a few.

You also have the option of working above, at or below said “grade level”, adopting a variety of homeschooling methods or philosophies, you have time to take subjects out of the box and/or break the boundaries that separate them. For instance, if you choose to teach or enhance world history with literature, you can often do away with a history or social studies text book. I often use a world history spine such as a children’s world history encyclopedia, or a curriculum like Story of the World, as a jumping off point and enhance this method with a variety of children’s biographies, and literature (both fiction and non-fiction) written around these topics. This way I find we cover everything without abandoning the excitement of discovery and simultaneously cementing the things they are learning. Personally, I find I remember historical events and time periods much more vividly if I have connected with it emotionally (through literature for example), rather than trying to remember a jumble of facts.

Though I’m not convinced that there is really a perfect learning environment (private, public, or home school), by now you should start to see the value of the kind of flexibility a home learning environment can emulate. I know this perk is one I highly value and am continually revisiting in order to create a learning environment that academically challenges and stimulates the love of learning in my children.

cherylCheryl has been married to her ‘do all’ husband for 13 years. They live in British Columbia, Canada on beautiful Vancouver Island. Cheryl has been homeschooling their two daughters ages 9 & 11, for 6 years. Her approach to homeschooling is mostly ecclectic with a dash of Classical & Charlotte Mason. She used to be one of those parents who thought they could never homeschool – boy, was she wrong! She enjoys blogging to encourage others that they too can homeschool if the desire is upon their hearts. She homeschools simply because – her kids are worth it. Please visit Cheryl at HomeSchool Journey.

Featured Homeschooler: Carol

wintery-walkPlease welcome this week’s Featured Homeschooler Carol from My Heart’s Desire!

You live in my favorite place in the world, Colorado! Tell us about your nature studies.

Nature study for us is taking a walk on the 75 acres where we live, driving down the road to one of the lakes or hiking trails. We bring a sketching tablet, pencil and colored pencils with us. The kids choose what they want to study, and draw it. We look up the name of it at home in a book or on the Internet. We love to be outside, but this year we haven’t taken advantage of it like we should have.

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You stay so busy with three ladies, one son, being a physician’s assistant and homeschooling! How do you keep from being overwhelmed?

Who says I am not overwhelmed? I am often overwhelmed! You forgot to mention that we work with a missionary organization called Youth With a Mission too. I try to keep my priorities straight, family always comes first. I do all my outside work in one day.

What is your favorite curriculum?

This year I’m using My Father’s World for the first time. We are enjoying it. Until this year we used Sonlight, which I still like a lot too. I am using a mix of both this year really. We homeschool with a Charlotte Mason flair using living books, narration, dictation, short lessons, etc. I love it and so do my girls.

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Could you share with us what a day at your house would entail?

Weekdays we get up between seven and eight, try to eat breakfast, get dressed, make beds and straighten rooms and start school by 8:30. We always start with our Bible lesson. This year the two oldest are memorizing the book of James.

Next we do math (Singapore Math and/or Miquon), language arts (Primary Language Lessons by Emma Serle and/or Sonlight Language Arts 3 for my 9 year old, and Intermediate Language Lessons by same author and Writing Strands 3 for my 11 year old) and spelling (Sequential Spelling). josiah1

We take a snack break about 10 am and then the girls read their readers – mostly from Sonlight and MFW book lists. While they do this, I do some learning activities with my 4 yo daughter +/- my 2 yo son. I am using Sonlight’s PreK 4/5 program with her, plus Singapore Early Bird A math, Developing the Early Learner series and Before You Explode the Code books A-C.

After reading the older girls finish their assignments in the above lessons and then we may do our history reading or science. My oldest daughter will write a short summary of what we read into her history notebook. We usually then go to have lunch at the dining center with the rest of the YWAMers (see #1) where my husband is the main cook.

After lunch we come home and the older girls have a bit of free time while I read to the younger two and put the baby down for his nap. Then we do history and science if we haven’t yet, the girls take turns on the computer doing Rosetta Stone Spanish, and then it’s getting close to time to prepare supper. We have been having supper at home, lately, but six months out of the year we also eat supper at the dining center.

After supper the kids get ready for bed and I read a read-aloud to them – usually a fiction book, from Sonlight or My Father’s World. The kids can color or do play dough or just lounge while I read, and we often have hot chocolate or another treat to make the time special. We all love this time. Daddy often will read separately to the youngest two and put them down to bed before I finish the reading for the oldest two. I then pray with them and they go to bed around 8 or 9 o’clock unless we are really into the book and read late!

joe-on-fenceWhat is your favorite Bible verse and why?

That is a hard one! I suppose it would be Psalm 37:3-4. It has been an anchor for me when times get hard here. It isn’t always easy to live in community with other Christians, but the Lord has used this scripture to tell me to trust Him, stay put, and FEED ON HIS FAITHFULNESS. He has really shown us His faithfulness since we joined YWAM 3 years ago. I like all of Psalm 34 and 37 actually.

What is the one thing that you’d love to have for your Homeschool?

A piano teacher, a voice teacher, and nice kids who lived nearby that would play with my kids on occasion.

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If you could take your family on any educational field trip, where would it be and why?

We would like to go back to Mesa Verde and stay for about 3 days, do their junior ranger program, camp nearby, and see all of it. We visited there last August and the few hours we had just didn’t do it justice. We’ve been studying a lot about the Native Americans and this would fit nicely into what we are learning. I also enjoy taking my family on missions trips, which are always educational too. Last time we went to Guatemala for 12 weeks.

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How do you teach different learning styles?

My oldest daughter, 11, loves to write, draw, etc. and so I let her do things that require writing. My second daughter, 9, struggles with writing so I let her do much more orally. When she was younger I had to let her go outside a lot between subjects and run a lot of energy off so she could focus better. Now she has a much longer attention span, but she is much more auditory and oral than visual. She likes to draw some too, so she will more often illustrate what she is learning than write about it, and she will do oral narrations rather than written.

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nikowaNikowa is a 2nd year homeschooling mom to two boys. (Ages 9 and 5) With her “learning never ends” philosophy, they have an eclectic year-round approach to learning. When she’s not teaching, she enjoys photography, organizing, cooking, reading, and knitting. She is a #1 LOST fan and watches UGA football too! (Go Dawgs!) You can visit Nikowa at Knowledge House Academy.