The Price of Professional Development

There is an old phrase called ‘Mother Culture’ used by homeschoolers who follow a Charlotte Mason approach to education. I ran a google search on the Ambleside Online site and was surprised to find that Charlotte Mason herself did not use the term, it appeared only in a parent’s review article.

Is there not some need for “mother culture”? …Then she can listen to her children, and perhaps do a little thinking–not about frocks and foods, but about characters, and how to deal with them; or she can take a book, and “grow” that way.
From a Parent’s Review article, 1892-93

The term irks me somewhat. It conjures up meanings in my mind that are completely contrary to what is intended by the phrase. Each time I hear the term ‘mother culture’ I cannot help but think of the ‘mommy eating bonbons and watching soap operas’ stereotype, the mommy wars between the stay at home and working mothers, the mommies carting their children to preschool dance classes and infant swim lessons. I think of what the concept of ‘mother’ is in our current culture. Instead, ‘Mother culture’ is actually meant to convey the idea that mothers should take some time out of ‘mothering’ to read books, go for walks, explore their own interests.

So, when I hear the term ‘mother culture’ I mentally substitute ‘professional development’, which might not accurately represent the concept either. As a teacher, whether it is of my own children or of other people’s children, I am a professional. It took awhile to get out of the ‘I’m just a housewife’ mind set, but it was very helpful once I did.

The wisest woman I ever knew–the best wife, the best mother, the best mistress, the best friend–told me once, when I asked her how, with her weak health and many calls upon her time, she managed to read so much, “I always keep three books going–a stiff book, a moderately easy book, and a novel, and I always take up the one I feel fit for.

Taken from the same article as the above passage.

Last summer I picked up a copy of a book called ‘The Well-Educated Mind’. It is a reading guide to the great books of classic literature for adults. I started at the beginning of her list with Don Quixote. It took me almost 4 months to finish that book. I soon saw the wisdom in having several books on the go.

I’m now working my way through Jane Eyre (I skipped a few books in between). It is challenging to find time in the day to read the classics. I had grabbed a moment on the weekend when the boys were visiting their grandparents. The house was calm and quiet, except for the Chickadee, who would appear halfway through each paragraph with her loud and demanding requests, “Want cereal!“, “Diaper!”, “Outside!”, “Stroller!”, “Want cereal!”. I finally relented by handing her a mostly empty container of Rice Krispies.

I returned to my novel, snuggled a little deeper into the couch, and managed to read a good section of the book, uninterrupted at last. Every now and then I would sneak a glance at the Chickadee. She was contentedly shoveling Rice Krispie dust into her mouth, most of which was making a sizeable mess on the carpet. Her little arm would reach down into the depths of the container as she tried to extract every last bit of crunchy goodness.

When she had finished, most of my living room carpet was covered with a fine layer of Rice Krispie powder. However, I did find out whether or not Jane married Mr. Rochester in the end.

Andrea is mom to 3 young children, ages 5, 3 and 18 months. They began homeschooling a year ago when they took their oldest son out of Junior Kindergarten. Before embarking on her adventures in motherhood, Andrea was a public school teacher and a park naturalist. The family resides in beautiful Canada. Visit Andrea and her beautiful children at Kids and Nature.